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03 Nov 2011, 1:41 pm

I think you should focus on the guys that write serious, well formulated and well spelled letters - and not focus on the idiots. If you write back to everyone who will write to you (and it will be many since you're a woman) you'll get tired fast and probably deregister.


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03 Nov 2011, 1:42 pm

Boo be pimpin'!

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I'd be surprised if the had bots who send messages of that sort.


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03 Nov 2011, 1:44 pm

Ichinin wrote:
I think you should focus on the guys that write serious, well formulated and well spelled letters - and not focus on the idiots. If you write back to everyone who will write to you (and it will be many since you're a woman) you'll get tired fast and probably deregister.


That's a very good point. Thanks.


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03 Nov 2011, 1:47 pm

anna-banana wrote:
I'd be surprised if the had bots who send messages of that sort.



The best hack that i could think of would be about dating sites and bots.

1. Create 1000 HTTP capable "chickbots" that can log in/out intermittently.
2. Make a generic presentation creator and make it post the presentation and grab some random girls face of the web.
3. Sit and watch as the clueless men write to the bots, while i was alone to focus on all the real girls

:)


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03 Nov 2011, 2:25 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
On a whim yesterday, I created an OkCupid profile for myself. When I went to check it just now, I was greeted with my first message... from some dude asking if I wanted a sugar daddy. 8O :?

Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?


I would assume so. It is natural for women to get tens or hundreds of messages from losers and creeps.

Perhaps somewhere in your profile, you can briefly list disqualifiers.



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03 Nov 2011, 2:29 pm

"Sugar Daddies need not apply"? :P


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03 Nov 2011, 2:33 pm

Ichinin wrote:
I think you should focus on the guys that write serious, well formulated and well spelled letters - and not focus on the idiots. If you write back to everyone who will write to you (and it will be many since you're a woman) you'll get tired fast and probably deregister.


^this^

It's absolutely astonishing how many responses women get, my ex-wife would literally make her account active for 2-3 days and have 100's of messages before she deactivated it again.

She met her current boyfriend that way though, so maybe it was worth it...



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03 Nov 2011, 2:38 pm

Grisha wrote:
Ichinin wrote:
I think you should focus on the guys that write serious, well formulated and well spelled letters - and not focus on the idiots. If you write back to everyone who will write to you (and it will be many since you're a woman) you'll get tired fast and probably deregister.


^this^

It's absolutely astonishing how many responses women get, my ex-wife would literally make her account active for 2-3 days and have 100's of messages before she deactivated it again.

She met her current boyfriend that way though, so maybe it was worth it...


Good lord... I'm not that serious about finding someone. I think I'd probably freak and deactivate the profile if someone sent me a message I could take seriously. :(


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03 Nov 2011, 2:52 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
On a whim yesterday, I created an OkCupid profile for myself. When I went to check it just now, I was greeted with my first message... from some dude asking if I wanted a sugar daddy. 8O :?

Is this a normal thing for women to get on there?



Lol yeah...women typically get harder come ons over the internet than guys do I think.
This is especially true if you post a revealing or otherwise attractive photo of yourself.
and how you respond is according to what you're looking for really.
If you just want intimacy,sex, etc then it might be ok.Although I would still be wary that you might up end up alone with some psycho that will imprison you in his basement well :P


But if you want something serious I would run as fast as I could the other way if I were you.Asking you if you want a 'Sugah daddy' sounds like the lame kind of come on you hear from horny guys in bars that just want to get in your pants.



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03 Nov 2011, 2:53 pm

i think by serious he meant a message that's not just a generic short copied and pasted thoughtless comment that was posted to 40 other women, but not necessarily a long-winded super serious love letter.



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03 Nov 2011, 2:54 pm

I have no idea if my pictures were all that attractive, but they certainly weren't revealing. Also, I thought most sugar daddies went for eye candy. That, I certainly am not.


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03 Nov 2011, 2:56 pm

minervx wrote:
i think by serious he meant a message that's not just a generic short copied and pasted thoughtless comment that was posted to 40 other women, but not necessarily a long-winded super serious love letter.


I know. Truth is I don't really know if I'm ready for a serious relationship but I know I am not interested in a fling.

Eh... I suppose I could just leave it up for when I am ready.


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03 Nov 2011, 2:57 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
I have no idea if my pictures were all that attractive, but they certainly weren't revealing. Also, I thought most sugar daddies went for eye candy. That, I certainly am not.


I think you're attractive, but not in an immediate, shiny way ("eye candy"). That's what led me to post my suppositions about his intentions, upthread.



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03 Nov 2011, 2:59 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
I have no idea if my pictures were all that attractive, but they certainly weren't revealing. Also, I thought most sugar daddies went for eye candy. That, I certainly am not.


We'll you are good looking though, so I guess they could see you as eye candy.

But I don't think its any quality you have about you that draws in sugar daddies, as I suspect they post the same comments to 100 other women.

Women (even ones who are average at best by Western standards) can easily get 100 messages a month. And many if not most of them will be from creeps and losers.

It's just part of the game.



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03 Nov 2011, 2:59 pm

mv wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
I have no idea if my pictures were all that attractive, but they certainly weren't revealing. Also, I thought most sugar daddies went for eye candy. That, I certainly am not.


I think you're attractive, but not in an immediate, shiny way ("eye candy"). That's what led me to post my suppositions about his intentions, upthread.


I had similar suspicions when I read the message.


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03 Nov 2011, 3:01 pm

Where's the link of your profile?