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Candles15
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13 Nov 2011, 4:14 pm

SoftlyStepping wrote:
Candles15 wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
If a (good) relationship isn't the solution to being lonely, what is? I have a very intense need for intimate physical contact... not necessarily sex, but intimate enough that only a romantic partner would suffice. It's only in moments like that where I feel like my life is actually worth something, that things might actually not suck...


That's why I think it's quite important to have some good friends first who you can rely on just in case things do go wrong..


Plural, friends. Your significant other and yourself are going to be out of sync sometimes. They're too busy, you're too busy, someone's too stressed to be emotionally supportive.

The guys go for hobbies and solo activities, the women usually have a group of close friends.


Yeah, true!



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13 Nov 2011, 4:19 pm

It's idealistic, I think, to say people should rely on friends for soothing their loneliness,
when many here such as myself have no idea how to make friends (I'm 23 years old)
and friendship isn't what they pine for in the first place.

Also, some people don't need or want time away from their partner-
for those people, every moment not spent with him or her is stressful.
That's the nature of the strength of some people's romantic attachment.


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13 Nov 2011, 4:57 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:
It's idealistic, I think, to say people should rely on friends for soothing their loneliness,
when many here such as myself have no idea how to make friends (I'm 23 years old)


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Awesome.