Am I boring?

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It's fantastic that you have someone who is understanding about it all. I never get that.

I highly doubt you're boring. It's hard for people like us to be "on" as much as NTs are.

It's really just when he starts naming the trees endemic to his neighborhood by their Latin names in reverse alphabetical order that he gets boring... but then I just imagine rolling around naked in his piles of cash, and I remember why I like him.

Okay, but how are the piles of cash arranged? This is important. Welcome to Aspie World, baby!

No more or no less than anybody else , why would you want to be with some one where that sort of thing is allways on your mind ?

Enjoy the silence I say ?

What needs to be said when you think about it?

Pass the suace bottle.

You seems to get a lot of women responding to your op's I wonder why?



I wouldn't be worried about being boring I'd be more concerned if women loved you for you or are more in love with your money.

Will you ever know ?



Lucky being a bum by choice I don't have to worry about these things.

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No, it's not necessary to be fascinating at or even near 100% of the time. I am boring almost 100% of the time, even to myself, but I still manage to keep myself occupied without going stir crazy.

When you run out of things to say in conversations, try drawing the other people out by asking questions, and then just listening to them speak as they answer the questions. People like a good listener, and you may also come up with other things to say later in the conversation, in response to where the other people have taken the conversation.

As for talking on the phone with people, including girl/boy friends, and family members, you should not call them more than once a day. Even that can be too often. Sometimes two or three times a week is enough. Not that much new stuff happens on a daily basis, to justify more frequent calls. Of course, emergencies, or a need to pick up or be picked up someone, are the exceptions to this rule, but how often do we have real emergencies. On the phone, once you have both run out of things to say it's time to say good bye, and hang up until next time.

Hanging onto a conversation long past it's end is annoying. I can give a personal example. After my mother stopped driving, I became her driver, and care giver. I occasionally had to take her to visit various relatives who lived some distance away. On one trip, we had stayed over one night, so we could have a nice visit with several different relatives in that area. The next day I was ready to start for home at about 5 pm, as I was tired and wanted to get home before it got too late. I told my mother to say her good byes at that time, and said my own then. We didn't get out of there until after 8 pm, and it was late when we got home. It took my mother over 3 hours to say good bye! AAAAAHHHHH!! !! ! Let that be a lesson to you. When the conversation is over, let it go.

My mother passed away over 8 years ago, but even today I still occasionally want to turn to her to tell her about something I've just come across on the news or the I-net that I know would interest her. Unfortunately, that is one conversation that will not come again.

I hope my post helps you. Remember we on the spectrum are all:

A Different Drummer

If a man does not keep pace with his companions,
Perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music which he hears,
However measured or far away.

--Henry David Thoreau

Grisha, are you a dendrology geek? The only reason I know the term is my younger brother was once the US dendrology champion. I think he missed 1/2 a point for a misspelling but otherwise 100% correct. When we'd walk through the woods he would point and label. I would smile and nod.

The bold'd statement above is the key. Besides, I really find it hard to believe that you can't think of something interesting, funny or even boring to talk about !

I've got a friend that calls me on her drive home from work almost every day and we always find something to talk about. The subject matter varies greatly, from serious problems to laughing our butts of at something.

Its always entertaining....to the both of us and its always OK to say " Well I've run out of things to talk about"


and now I've run out of comments for my reply to this post........for now.

Kind reminder to everyone that personal attacks arent welcome here.

He gets a lot of responses from women because he's taken the time to build relationships with the women on this board, and they're comfortable talking to him.

You're implying women on this internet forum are replying to this post to get his money?!

Oh Grisha, I replied to your thread, please send me a diamond necklace!!

I want a diamond necklace too

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It's on the way!

Moog too.

Jeez - paying people to respond to your posts really adds up quickly...

What's that in? Pounds, dollars, yo-yos... Lebanese pounds?

Mine too.