Mr Nice Guys

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If the poster who is looking for the nice guy happens to be young and good looking, then she's probably also looking for a guy who (in addition to being nice) is attractive, well-educated, and has a good personality.

I had this male friend who was overweight, short, and had sort of bad skin. He was also broke and living at home with his parents. He had this huge crush on a barista at the university we went to. She was 10 years younger than he was and was very pretty but he thought he had a shot because she was always nice to him when fixing his coffee, making chit chat etc. He finally got up the courage to ask her out and she turned him down cold. He was so angry, “I’m such a great guy, why wouldn’t she even give me a chance?” Then I offered to set him up with one of my friends. She was the same age as him, also on the chubby side, also a very fun and kind person who had already graduated with honors and had a kick-ass job and owned her own home. I showed him her picture, and he was NOT INTERESTED.

When I hear “Nice Guys” complain that “women” only want to date jerks…what most of them really mean is that all the *trophy* women that they happen to be physically attracted to only want to date *trophy* men (men whom the women are attracted to). So, look at yourself realistically. Are you young and physically attractive? Are you well-educated or financially well-off? Are you fun to be around and interesting? If so, it probably doesn’t matter if you’re a nice guy or not, you won’t have trouble dating the most attractive single women out there. If the above does *not* describe you, you probably will be frustrated for many years unless you start asking out the less “desirable” women. Women who are probably just as “nice” as you are!

I hope you are wrong! LOL.

Not really... confidence can just be imaginary (thinking a person is something that they are not), money is only good over things that can be bought (which does not include everything, including many people), and charisma is generally only good over those who are incapable of seeing through it.
Someone who is brave with intellect and principles is much stronger, in my opinion.

Well, ya got me there.

There are some of us that aren't married.

Know Why?

They're gay.

Not married, not gay, but I'm not sure if I'm nice - I'm guessing "no".

From what I know of you from your posts, I'd say you are nice. I'd call you a nice person though, because nobody seems able to agree upon a clear definition of what a "nice guy" actually is.

SSHHH!! ! Do you want to ruin my love life?

(as if I needed any help doing that )

Not me.

Not really... confidence can just be imaginary (thinking a person is something that they are not), money is only good over things that can be bought (which does not include everything, including many people), and charisma is generally only good over those who are incapable of seeing through it.
Someone who is brave with intellect and principles is much stronger, in my opinion.

So if someone lacks confidence AND money AND power, he can still not be weak?

Brave with intellect and principles is not confidence?

Well, someone could have good qualities, but yet be unsure of them (like not be confident in their own abilities).

Isn't that usually fake modesty?

Men are always saying that women don't want a Mr Nice guy but here is one woman that does. So where are all the Mr Nice guys? Nowhere that I can find them...