DemonAbyss10 wrote:
tronist wrote:
The-Raven wrote:
which is more psychologically healthy or more likely to lead to happiness?
to chose celibacy and decide to purposely stay alone?
or
to chose to actively seek a partner?
or
to not actively seek a partner but be open to having one if they come along?
the last one seems like a cop-out to me. if you arent actively seeking a partner, you really shouldnt expect results. it would be nice if / when they come around, but if you actually want to have a relationship, #2 will yield the best results. this being said, im the type of person that is infinitely more happy when im in a relationship.
Last one isn't really a cop out. There are those of us that just don't care at all, its more of a damned if you do damned if you down/ if it happens it happens if it doesn't it doesnt response to me. It is defenitely more or less the relaxed minimum stress path.
I honestly don't understand why the hell everyone has to be in a rush for a sexual relationship sometimes (talking aside from human nature). Its probably because relationship = social status booster in this f**** up society we live in.
Yeah, I feel the social pressure thing. I feel like I don't want to visit my extended family anymore coz I keep getting asked why I haven't settled down yet. Then my mum phones and says her family all can't understand why i'm single because i'm so nice.
I have communcation issues ok? Even when i've haden interested in me i've messed it up somehow.
Sorry, i'm ranting.
Not sure what my best option is. I don't want to actively seem desperate, but I don't want to give uo. I wish someone would maybe introduce me to a single male friend of theirs or something.
10 Dec 2011, 6:42 am
