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17 Dec 2011, 7:13 pm

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Again, this is why I'm so glad I don't live in America. In Britain you can say and do anything and it doesn't mean anything until you've had sex three times (or anal sex once).

Yeah, it is a bare (excuse the pun) minimum requirement nowadays.


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17 Dec 2011, 7:19 pm

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It depends on whether the person plays GTA: San Andreas or not.


:lol: That's "hot coffee"


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17 Dec 2011, 7:55 pm

Tequila wrote:
fraac wrote:
In Britain you can say and do anything and it doesn't mean anything until you've had sex three times (or anal sex once).


You're going to have to tell me where to find these legions of ladies who will have anal sex with the first person they clap eyes on.


Not in the UK, but:

30 Harcourt Street
Dublin 2
Ireland

(mods: this is an actual business address. It's a nightclub called "Copperface Jacks".)

(Irish folks: don't give up the joke, for as long as possible :D )



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17 Dec 2011, 8:20 pm

Also note that "do you want to come in for coffee?" is an initation to go inside someone's house for sex. Or at least it has on the soap operas I have glanced at during my years.

Is it where all the Dublin women slappers or gay men hang out? Go on, as an Irishman, tell me the 'joke'.

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17 Dec 2011, 9:51 pm

I was curious and looked it up, and 1 comment on the first google hit for the pub name (link) says, "This place is called among Dublin folk as 'Slappers'. It is reknowned for nurses and gardai (irish police force) and of course culchies (People from the countryside ie. outside Dublin). Generally speaking it draws its clientele from these classes..."


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20 Dec 2011, 1:03 am

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Ok, say you're at a party or something, you're chatting to someone of the opposite sex that you've just met for the first time, and you want to get to know them better as a friend. Where is the dividing line between asking "Shall we meet up for coffee?" (date) and "Shall we meet up for coffee?" (friends)? You can't really qualify it by saying something like, "Shall we meet up for coffee as friends?" because that sounds like you're hiding the fact that you want to date them, even though you don't.


Are you trying to hide the fact you want to bang them or not? I don't get it.



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20 Dec 2011, 1:18 am

RICKY5 wrote:
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Ok, say you're at a party or something, you're chatting to someone of the opposite sex that you've just met for the first time, and you want to get to know them better as a friend. Where is the dividing line between asking "Shall we meet up for coffee?" (date) and "Shall we meet up for coffee?" (friends)? You can't really qualify it by saying something like, "Shall we meet up for coffee as friends?" because that sounds like you're hiding the fact that you want to date them, even though you don't.


Are you trying to hide the fact you want to bang them or not? I don't get it.


As stated, in this hypothetical scenario the idea is to meet up with the other person at a cafe to drink coffee, and get to know them better as a friend. The point I was raising is that if you say, "Shall we meet up for coffee as friends?" then it immediately sounds like you want a date, regardless of whether that is true.

I'm not sure where in this I implied a request for sex.



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22 Dec 2011, 8:19 pm

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
Ok, say you're at a party or something, you're chatting to someone of the opposite sex that you've just met for the first time, and you want to get to know them better as a friend. Where is the dividing line between asking "Shall we meet up for coffee?" (date) and "Shall we meet up for coffee?" (friends)? You can't really qualify it by saying something like, "Shall we meet up for coffee as friends?" because that sounds like you're hiding the fact that you want to date them, even though you don't.


Are you trying to hide the fact you want to bang them or not? I don't get it.


As stated, in this hypothetical scenario the idea is to meet up with the other person at a cafe to drink coffee, and get to know them better as a friend. The point I was raising is that if you say, "Shall we meet up for coffee as friends?" then it immediately sounds like you want a date, regardless of whether that is true.

I'm not sure where in this I implied a request for sex.


Any time a guy who is not confirmed/declared as gay asks a girl to go out, it always implies a sexual interest to the girl. That is human nature.



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22 Dec 2011, 11:02 pm

RICKY5 wrote:
CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
Ok, say you're at a party or something, you're chatting to someone of the opposite sex that you've just met for the first time, and you want to get to know them better as a friend. Where is the dividing line between asking "Shall we meet up for coffee?" (date) and "Shall we meet up for coffee?" (friends)? You can't really qualify it by saying something like, "Shall we meet up for coffee as friends?" because that sounds like you're hiding the fact that you want to date them, even though you don't.


Are you trying to hide the fact you want to bang them or not? I don't get it.


As stated, in this hypothetical scenario the idea is to meet up with the other person at a cafe to drink coffee, and get to know them better as a friend. The point I was raising is that if you say, "Shall we meet up for coffee as friends?" then it immediately sounds like you want a date, regardless of whether that is true.

I'm not sure where in this I implied a request for sex.


Any time a guy who is not confirmed/declared as gay asks a girl to go out, it always implies a sexual interest to the girl. That is human nature.

Do you differentiate between the desire for sex and the desire to snog?



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23 Dec 2011, 9:16 am

I don't know the other day this guy asked my friend if she wanted to meet for coffee she thought It was a date and it turned out he wanted to talk and tell her he was seeing Someone else.



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23 Dec 2011, 9:26 am

It's always sexual but you don't always want to have sex. I'd rather have female friends to play with but I would avoid having sex with most of them. It's still nice to play.



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23 Dec 2011, 6:07 pm

i think most important are non verbal cues and context not what you say