Is a relationship really worth it?

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I'm afraid that even if I "gel" with someone, it won't be enough without flirting or specific techniques. Is it really OK to be direct about how you go about bonding with someone, or do women really need "the chase" that much?

I think that you should accept those things about yourself that set you apart and know that if it's what you want, someone else will also accept you for who you are. There are a lot of women who aren't fixed on stereo types or superficial. I do think it's good to be direct but it's important to find someone who is open to that. It's also important to know the limitations of being direct. You have to be mindful of the other person's feelings, not allowing directness to transform into rudeness.
The kind of woman that you want to attract will care little about 'techniques' or some kind of chase and much more about the fact that she's in the same space with a good man who she feels attracted to because he's interesting and she believes he really cares about her and sees her for who she is. If you can make a good woman feel that way, it's really in the bag. And yes... I believe relationships are worth it - even with the ups and downs. I'm an nt ans my husband is as and we've been married 5 years now and going strong. Good luck