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bruinsy33
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02 Jan 2012, 10:07 pm

It's hard to say depending how often you figure she checks her email ,if it looks like she regularly checks it a few days should be sufficient.



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03 Jan 2012, 7:17 am

Adam82 wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Adam82 wrote:
Done. I just sent a casual message, asking if she'd like to catch up sometime.

It was a very brave thing for me to do. A bold step. But I asked someone out. I finally did it.


I agree, a bold step but once you overcome the fear of rejection, you will find it becomes easier and easier. If she does reject you, the best thing you can do is not take it personally or be disheartened by it and move on.


How many days should one wait for a response, before deciding she's not going to? In my experience, some girls are a bit slack with replying to people.


It depends on her schedule and routine, if a girl really likes you however, she will make time for you regardless of how busy her schedule is.



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03 Jan 2012, 9:19 am

I wish I had caught this post earlier. I really hesitate to tell you you did the wrong thing. I write this with deep apologies. The thing is I'd like others to benefit from my failures. I actually think you should have asked your sister to get her phone number. I don't know how you worded your message, but on that path, in my experience, it is far too easy to end up on the friend path and not know it. This is especially true if you are timid about your intentions. There's nothing wrong with having another friend. That's not the issue. The longer you DON'T know you're on the friend path the more likely you are to get your heart broken. By asking your sister for her phone number you could make things clear up front. If there were no interest you could spend your energy elsewhere.