Is it possible to reconcile my religious beliefs?

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ToadofSteel, if you think that you're not worthy, women will agree.

I just want to be as good of a person as I can possibly be, and I can't even do that...

Not true. Everyone in the world is wrong about something. I'm not in this thread to say that Christianity is false. I'm just saying that even if Christianity is false, it doesn't make you a bad person for believing it. Believing false things just isn't the sort of thing that makes you a bad person.

You need more self-respect, so that you feel confident in who you are apart from whatever beliefs you might have. If you respect yourself, then other people will respect you. If you love yourself, then other people will find it easy to love you as well. You shouldn't be looking for a good relationship with another person if you don't have a good relationship with yourself.

I suppose any belief system can be taken too far and alienate people. The trick is to listen to what the other person has to say and not be an idiot about things. If women run the other way when you say you're religious, then could you demonstrate that you're reasonable and a good listener before you say anything about your religious preferences? Some characteristics that I would find attractive in women include good critical thinking skills and a healthy ability to tolerate a little gross humor. Not unquestioningly accepting the 6000 year old earth is a good start on the critical thinking skills, and liking South Park is healthy and doesn't translate into "wanna screw?". I could imagine that there are some women who would find these same traits attractive in men.

Even agnosticism can be taken too far!

http://www.southparkstudios.com/full-episodes/s15e14-the-poor-kid

I'm white trash and I'm in trouble!

arent there whole big churches for liberal christians? methodists, modern catholics, episolians, quakers etc.

Christianity, is not what is keeping you from finding someone
nor is the fact that you play video games

It's true people can be nit picky about those things
but if they are then they're not the people you want to date

I will say this, that your idea of wanting to share "just one aspect of my life" with a woman. Could be a reason your having so much trouble.

If you share just one aspect of your life with someone, their not going to feel that your being open about yourself. Now, I'm not saying just tell all your troubles to a women. I'm just saying that you shouldn't just focus on that one thing you think you have in common with a woman. Because eventualy they will think all you are is that "one aspect" of your self and they'll get bored because thats all they're seeing.

^ This!

But do other people really want to hear everything about the other parts of my life? Wouldn't the average woman just be bored by my love of video gaming, especially if I talk about it to her?

There's your problem. Thinking of yourself as unlovable sets up a barrier to any expressions of love directed your way. As long as you believe that you are unlovable, you will either not notice any signs of romantic interest, or you will notice and consider such signs as insincere or manipulative.

Been there, done that, and got over it.

You can too.

Your pretty liberal about religion so I don't get why you being Christian TOS would push none 1s away unless you kept bringing your religion up. You being Christian should not be an issue with non religious if you don't talk about it with them

Most atheists ARE agnostics. Just sayin'....

If you actively-avoid anything that might remove or disprove your beliefs, it sounds like you don't have the coping skills to deal with a relationship in the first place? There's an extreme fragility there.

You could recognise that beliefs are just filters so you don't have to process the whole world. They're artificial and with a biological purpose. Use them accordingly.

Yeah, if its the only thing you talk about with her. Shoot I love video games, but even I get bored if thats all a girl wants to talk about. The point is not to focus on just one thing you have in common with someone but many things, you can talk about or have in common with. Never ask someone if "they like to play video games", ask them "want do they like to do in their spare time".

Not because you want to avoid the subject of video games, but instead its to see if theirs more interests you have in common, like movies, writing, hiking, shopping, playing D&D, bible school, tv shows, music, etc.

The more you have in common with someone the easier it is to keep a conversion going and keep it interesting to both involved. This is why its bad to just try and relate to someone on one subject or "one aspect" your self.

The problem is it's hard to find a girl that has even one thing in common with me, let alone multiple things... I don't want to just create a laundry list of criteria, I just want to connect with someone through something we can both enjoy together, while at the same point not letting the rest of my identity scare her away.

I have this issue to a point, but I don't care about it really. I figure God will just take care of it in time, my having a wife and all. I don't get why people like....care so much, about finding "someone." My problem I guess is my standards are very much too specific, and I shut myself out of a lot of relationships just out of fear of them turning sour before I can start them.

Your Christian beliefs, though, most people I've met don't really think too differently really than you. I'm on the opposite spectrum, young earth Creationist, much more literal with the Bible, etc. Also I'm Orthodox (well not technically yet, but yeah) so that makes Protestants and Catholics think you're weird. If you don't care about the religiosity of the other person, then simply don't bring up yours in conversation until asked, and definitely don't put it on dating sites and the like. I think people would be more scared off that you're asserting your views, as it just seems weird to assert your views, especially when your views are sorta broad like that. Usually by asserting religious views, people view it as exclusionary on your part. So for you and religion, you'd probably be best off with a "don't ask, don't tell" approach to it. For me, that doesn't fly, but yeah.

For me personally, I can't see myself dating anyone not Christian, and I'd likely want someone with more conservative viewpoints like myself, so that narrows down my dating pool a lot, but it's just the way things are.

In the end, it just comes down to, people who like you will like you, and people who don't, won't. If it wasn't your religious views making people not like you, it'd be political views, anything really.

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As far as commonalities, uhm, well, basically, what I've gathered is this. Commonalities are good to a point, but it's more toleration that's the key. For me also, in people in general, opposites are attractive to me, a female version of me sounds insane really. Like I have enough problems dealing with me, so two people as crazy as myself sounds like it'd be a sitcom or something. Basically, what hyperlexian was saying about chemistry is right. It's not so much commonalities as much as it is "do you get along?" For me, it'd be pretty outlandish to ask for a girl who works on cars, ice skates, listens to jpop and eurobeat, and goes dumpster diving, but all I can ask for is a girl who will tolerate that in me, and whatever her interests are, I'd have to reciprocate with toleration. But then there's things that are irreconcilable differences, which the religion thing is for me. Keep in mind, all my advice is theoretical crap, having never had a girlfriend ever.