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27 Mar 2012, 6:09 pm
27 Mar 2012, 6:12 pm
Boxman108 wrote:
mushroo wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Joker wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Have not had much like with any dating sites at all, but of course, as Face_of_Boo said, you'll probably have a much better time at least getting attention as a girl.
That isnt true at all men recieve just as much attention on online dating sites as women do.
That isnt true at all men recieve just as much attention on online dating sites as women do.
Then why not explain away all the unhappy men that haven't got any results?
There is no guarantee of success.
Registering for the site is only Step 1.
It's what you do after Step 1 that gets you the girl/boy.
That's really besides the point. You're assuming those that are unsucessful don't take the time to do anything else with their profiles.
Nope; I am assuming that a certain percentage of people who sign up will be disappointed, whether they are male or female.
It is a common fallacy for women to think "dating is easier for men" and for men to think "dating is easier for women." It's hard for everyone!
27 Mar 2012, 6:13 pm
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27 Mar 2012, 6:16 pm
27 Mar 2012, 6:19 pm
27 Mar 2012, 6:20 pm
Boxman108 wrote:
Joker wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Joker wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Have not had much like with any dating sites at all, but of course, as Face_of_Boo said, you'll probably have a much better time at least getting attention as a girl.
That isnt true at all men recieve just as much attention on online dating sites as women do.
That isnt true at all men recieve just as much attention on online dating sites as women do.
Then why not explain away all the unhappy men that haven't got any results?
Women have certin things they find attractive about men one reason could be they are not going to respond to every guy women get tired of hereing the same things all the time be original when talking to them dont say the things they here all the time instead of talking.
About how pretty she is find some other things to talk to her about asking the right questions is the key to getting good results when talking to girls.
That's not what I'm talking about. The fact that you've got to stand out to get any results already shows that dating sites are terribly unbalanced.
Sorry but I think you are blaming the dating site for something that is your responsibility. All they do is provide a forum/venue. If you don't stand out, then you don't stand out.
Sorry if that sounds harsh.
Do you have an NT friend or family member who can help you make your profile stand out? My sister and I have had a lot of fun helping each other with our profiles.
If you are looking for a way to date that does not require you to stand out from the crowd to get a 1st date, the only suggestion I can think is one of those speed-dating services, where you are guaranteed a 5 minute first date with everyone there. But I think something like that would be hell for an Aspie.
27 Mar 2012, 6:24 pm
mushroo wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Joker wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Joker wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Have not had much like with any dating sites at all, but of course, as Face_of_Boo said, you'll probably have a much better time at least getting attention as a girl.
That isnt true at all men recieve just as much attention on online dating sites as women do.
That isnt true at all men recieve just as much attention on online dating sites as women do.
Then why not explain away all the unhappy men that haven't got any results?
Women have certin things they find attractive about men one reason could be they are not going to respond to every guy women get tired of hereing the same things all the time be original when talking to them dont say the things they here all the time instead of talking.
About how pretty she is find some other things to talk to her about asking the right questions is the key to getting good results when talking to girls.
That's not what I'm talking about. The fact that you've got to stand out to get any results already shows that dating sites are terribly unbalanced.
Sorry but I think you are blaming the dating site for something that is your responsibility. All they do is provide a forum/venue. If you don't stand out, then you don't stand out.
Sorry if that sounds harsh.
Do you have an NT friend or family member who can help you make your profile stand out? My sister and I have had a lot of fun helping each other with our profiles.
If you are looking for a way to date that does not require you to stand out from the crowd to get a 1st date, the only suggestion I can think is one of those speed-dating services, where you are guaranteed a 5 minute first date with everyone there. But I think something like that would be hell for an Aspie.
I don't think insulting anyone is going to make you any less wrong. Nobody should have to participate in some rat race in order to be in a relationship. Fact is, there are far less females than there are males on these sites, so it's only natural that the scales are tipped.
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27 Mar 2012, 6:26 pm
mushroo wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Joker wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Joker wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Have not had much like with any dating sites at all, but of course, as Face_of_Boo said, you'll probably have a much better time at least getting attention as a girl.
That isnt true at all men recieve just as much attention on online dating sites as women do.
That isnt true at all men recieve just as much attention on online dating sites as women do.
Then why not explain away all the unhappy men that haven't got any results?
Women have certin things they find attractive about men one reason could be they are not going to respond to every guy women get tired of hereing the same things all the time be original when talking to them dont say the things they here all the time instead of talking.
About how pretty she is find some other things to talk to her about asking the right questions is the key to getting good results when talking to girls.
That's not what I'm talking about. The fact that you've got to stand out to get any results already shows that dating sites are terribly unbalanced.
Sorry but I think you are blaming the dating site for something that is your responsibility. All they do is provide a forum/venue. If you don't stand out, then you don't stand out.
Sorry if that sounds harsh.
Do you have an NT friend or family member who can help you make your profile stand out? My sister and I have had a lot of fun helping each other with our profiles.
If you are looking for a way to date that does not require you to stand out from the crowd to get a 1st date, the only suggestion I can think is one of those speed-dating services, where you are guaranteed a 5 minute first date with everyone there. But I think something like that would be hell for an Aspie.
Its very easy to blame someting for your own misfortunes instead of trying to stand out an find a good woman to and to work on finding that speical person to have a good relationship with.
27 Mar 2012, 6:27 pm
27 Mar 2012, 6:31 pm
Joker
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27 Mar 2012, 6:34 pm
27 Mar 2012, 6:36 pm
Boxman108 wrote:
mushroo wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Joker wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Joker wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Joker wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Have not had much like with any dating sites at all, but of course, as Face_of_Boo said, you'll probably have a much better time at least getting attention as a girl.
That isnt true at all men recieve just as much attention on online dating sites as women do.
That isnt true at all men recieve just as much attention on online dating sites as women do.
Then why not explain away all the unhappy men that haven't got any results?
Women have certin things they find attractive about men one reason could be they are not going to respond to every guy women get tired of hereing the same things all the time be original when talking to them dont say the things they here all the time instead of talking.
About how pretty she is find some other things to talk to her about asking the right questions is the key to getting good results when talking to girls.
That's not what I'm talking about. The fact that you've got to stand out to get any results already shows that dating sites are terribly unbalanced.
You have to be willing to go the extra mile to get anywhere in regards to dating its not just going to happen you have to be the one that takes risks puts it all out their ect.
A lot of people men and women have found success and a good relationship threw dating or networking sites like Facebook.
What you seem to be missing is that I said males don't get as much attention regardless. If things were "fair"(or, rather, the ratio between two genders being 1:1), both sides would attempt to initiate a relationship, rather than one having to put in all the effort.
Dating sites aren't about getting attention or achieving a 1:1 ratio; but rather about meeting one special someone. I think you are intellectualizing the situation instead of actually putting yourself out there and initiating the contact (which is traditionally the role of the male, real world or online).
Well I guess there's your problem then. Falling for ridiculous gender roles is just about one of the worst things you can do.
I do not think one can realistically separate gender roles from dating.
To summarize my advice so far:
1. Use a paid site (not OKCupid).
2. Get an NT to help with your profile.
3. Don't be shy; make the first move.
If you think that is ridiculous or controversial advice then I respect your opinion.
27 Mar 2012, 6:39 pm
mushoo wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Well I guess there's your problem then. Falling for ridiculous gender roles is just about one of the worst things you can do.
I do not think one can realistically separate gender roles from dating.
To summarize my advice so far:
1. Use a paid site (not OKCupid).
2. Get an NT to help with your profile.
3. Don't be shy; make the first move.
If you think that is ridiculous or controversial advice then I respect your opinion.
I was never asking for advice in the first place; I was stating my opinion that dating websites do not offer much in general for males looking to date females.
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27 Mar 2012, 6:43 pm
Boxman108 wrote:
mushoo wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Well I guess there's your problem then. Falling for ridiculous gender roles is just about one of the worst things you can do.
I do not think one can realistically separate gender roles from dating.
To summarize my advice so far:
1. Use a paid site (not OKCupid).
2. Get an NT to help with your profile.
3. Don't be shy; make the first move.
If you think that is ridiculous or controversial advice then I respect your opinion.
I was never asking for advice in the first place; I was stating my opinion that dating websites do not offer much in general for males looking to date females.
According to research and statistics that is inncorrect.
27 Mar 2012, 6:44 pm
Boxman108 wrote:
mushoo wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Well I guess there's your problem then. Falling for ridiculous gender roles is just about one of the worst things you can do.
I do not think one can realistically separate gender roles from dating.
To summarize my advice so far:
1. Use a paid site (not OKCupid).
2. Get an NT to help with your profile.
3. Don't be shy; make the first move.
If you think that is ridiculous or controversial advice then I respect your opinion.
I was never asking for advice in the first place; I was stating my opinion that dating websites do not offer much in general for males looking to date females.
Actually my advice was for Bazinga4 (the original poster) but if someone else finds it helpful, I think that's wonderful too.
27 Mar 2012, 6:56 pm
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