What kind of relationship does an average aspie get.

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Why does the age difference have to be such a big deal if you are compatible in so many ways?

Well that's really just one reason but I guess we just find that idea a bit uncomfortable, other then that I've never enjoyed taking things to full levels of intamacy in the past hence the reason I think I could be asexual...and well since that has been my experience I feel taking things that far just might ruin what we already have because that would probably make it awkward like all my past relationships.

I prefer to keep the friendship.

I know this has been said already, but what's an average aspie?

And are we talking about the average male Aspie, or average female Aspie? Or an average of a blend of the two?

If it's the former, biological and evolutionary dynamics would mean the answer is different. If it's a blend of the two I'd guess the answer is a relationship with someone equally as different to, or equally as much on the margins of, their community as the average Aspie is.

I think most of the time people get the relationships they work for.

I'm a strange mix. Into philosophy, political science, sociology, BDSM (too haha), need time alone more than my boyfriend would like and trying to find a balance. Intellectually and sexually it's perfect but he's abusive (verbally) when he thinks I might be forgetting about him and don't call for a week or something. So we have a relationship constantly strained by my being a mute and his being a brute sometimes...

It's hard, but I'm sticking with it. We are going to get counseling to help see each other's sides better and hopefully eventually get married (ahhhhhh!! !). I guess I'm trying to say there isn't really a way to map it out until you meet someone it's worth drawing a map with. You can find anything you need if you're truthful and persistent. There is someone out there and maybe it won't be the kind of relationship you imagined of will be awesome for you;) Good luck! Get out there...it takes a lot of time and effort but worth it!

'Average' is probably misleading. I'd bet aspies have either no relationships, very bad ones or exceptionally good ones. Extremes, probably. I've always been all or nothing.