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01 May 2012, 9:45 pm

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women like me because I never say disrespecful things about them.


Two questions:

1. The only kind of 'disrespectful things' i say about women is in the context of them not liking me. Now since cause happens before the effect, the women FIRST rejected me and only LATER i started saying negative things. This brings up a question: why did they reject me this first time if i haven't said anything disrespectful yet?

2. Even if you take the time AFTER the initial rejection, the only audience I complain to about it is online, not the real world (in fact I am quite shy in the real world). So how would women know what I say on the internet unless they somehow stumble on one of the message boards I post in?


I mean I get rejected to me it's not a big deal becasue the worse they can say is no.



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01 May 2012, 9:45 pm

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Seems I am one of the few men on WP that never blames women.


There's a difference between not wanting the friendship of a certain someone and harbouring resentment to women.



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01 May 2012, 9:53 pm

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Seems I am one of the few men on WP that never blames women.


There's a difference between not wanting the friendship of a certain someone and harbouring resentment to women.


True yes but it is very common for men harbouring resenment for women I see it all the time when it is pointless to do.



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01 May 2012, 9:55 pm

Joker wrote:
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women like me because I never say disrespecful things about them.


Two questions:

1. The only kind of 'disrespectful things' i say about women is in the context of them not liking me. Now since cause happens before the effect, the women FIRST rejected me and only LATER i started saying negative things. This brings up a question: why did they reject me this first time if i haven't said anything disrespectful yet?

2. Even if you take the time AFTER the initial rejection, the only audience I complain to about it is online, not the real world (in fact I am quite shy in the real world). So how would women know what I say on the internet unless they somehow stumble on one of the message boards I post in?


I mean I get rejected to me it's not a big deal becasue the worse they can say is no.


But still, you encounter say 10 wmen a day, 5 say yes, 5 say no. In my case i encounter 1 woman in 5 months, and if she says no then i have to wait another 5 month for some other one. THAT is where resentment comes from. So once again, you can't say it is because of resentment since resentment was CAUSED BY IT.



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01 May 2012, 9:57 pm

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Women traditionally select the man based on status. So the fact that the woman is not willing to be my girlfriend is a reflection of the fact that she sees me as low status. Now, why would anyone (male or female) want to be friends with anyone else (male or female) who judges them? They won't.


Women don't select men based solely on status(maybe they did in the 1800's). There is SO much more that goes into it. Now, if a woman rejects you entirely because of her social status, than that is a bit shallow, but ultimately, it's her decision who she wants to give her romantic affection to, and she has every right to make her choice. And you could still have a great friendship with her regardless.

Besides, don't try and tell me that you don't prefer certain women as potential partners for shallow reasons. Everyone is shallow to some extent.



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01 May 2012, 10:02 pm

Roman wrote:
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women like me because I never say disrespecful things about them.


Two questions:

1. The only kind of 'disrespectful things' i say about women is in the context of them not liking me. Now since cause happens before the effect, the women FIRST rejected me and only LATER i started saying negative things. This brings up a question: why did they reject me this first time if i haven't said anything disrespectful yet?

2. Even if you take the time AFTER the initial rejection, the only audience I complain to about it is online, not the real world (in fact I am quite shy in the real world). So how would women know what I say on the internet unless they somehow stumble on one of the message boards I post in?


I mean I get rejected to me it's not a big deal becasue the worse they can say is no.


But still, you encounter say 10 wmen a day, 5 say yes, 5 say no. In my case i encounter 1 woman in 5 months, and if she says no then i have to wait another 5 month for some other one. THAT is where resentment comes from. So once again, you can't say it is because of resentment since resentment was CAUSED BY IT.


You should be fearless when approaching women they can tell if your shy and when they do it is a turn off. Be confident in yourself and be true to yourself.



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01 May 2012, 10:17 pm

status is not a big factor for most people in dating. there are some people who do care about that, but they are few and far between. there are many reasons why people reject each other, and the biggest one seems to be a a lack of attraction (which is based on a large number of factors, most of them non-quantifiable).

someone who actually wants to be a friend is not seeking an emotional tampon. successful friendships are mutual, with friends supporting each other. it is possible to remain friends (or become friends) after a rejection, but in my opinion it requires that both parties let go of some of their ego.


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01 May 2012, 10:33 pm

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someone who actually wants to be a friend is not seeking an emotional tampon. successful friendships are mutual, with friends supporting each other. it is possible to remain friends (or become friends) after a rejection, but in my opinion it requires that both parties let go of some of their ego.


:lmao: I like how you slide that into your serious comment


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01 May 2012, 10:36 pm

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someone who actually wants to be a friend is not seeking an emotional tampon. successful friendships are mutual, with friends supporting each other. it is possible to remain friends (or become friends) after a rejection, but in my opinion it requires that both parties let go of some of their ego.


:lmao: I like how you slide that into your serious comment


I like how you will discredit anything women on WP have to say :roll:



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01 May 2012, 10:37 pm

i cringe a little every time i read it. :pale:


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01 May 2012, 10:40 pm

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someone who actually wants to be a friend is not seeking an emotional tampon. successful friendships are mutual, with friends supporting each other. it is possible to remain friends (or become friends) after a rejection, but in my opinion it requires that both parties let go of some of their ego.


:lmao: I like how you slide that into your serious comment


I like how you will discredit anything women on WP have to say :roll:

Lol, what are you talking about? Oh... I guess by putting serious comment it sounds like I was being sarcastic, I was not. Hyperlexian does not appear to think I was discrediting her.

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i cringe a little every time i read it. :pale:

not exactly sure what you mean


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01 May 2012, 10:41 pm

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someone who actually wants to be a friend is not seeking an emotional tampon. successful friendships are mutual, with friends supporting each other. it is possible to remain friends (or become friends) after a rejection, but in my opinion it requires that both parties let go of some of their ego.


:lmao: I like how you slide that into your serious comment


I like how you will discredit anything women on WP have to say :roll:

Lol, what are you talking about? Oh... I guess by putting serious comment it sounds like I was being sarcastic, I was not. Hyperlexian does not appear to think I was discrediting her.

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i cringe a little every time i read it. :pale:

not exactly sure what you mean


My bad lol



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01 May 2012, 10:43 pm

Joker you said women, which is plural. So I have discredited multiple women's opinions on WP? I haven't been a member very long, I must get around


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01 May 2012, 10:53 pm

Delphiki wrote:
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Delphiki wrote:
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someone who actually wants to be a friend is not seeking an emotional tampon. successful friendships are mutual, with friends supporting each other. it is possible to remain friends (or become friends) after a rejection, but in my opinion it requires that both parties let go of some of their ego.


:lmao: I like how you slide that into your serious comment


I like how you will discredit anything women on WP have to say :roll:

Lol, what are you talking about? Oh... I guess by putting serious comment it sounds like I was being sarcastic, I was not. Hyperlexian does not appear to think I was discrediting her.

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i cringe a little every time i read it. :pale:

not exactly sure what you mean

the word "emotional tampon" is horrible. i don't think most women would stoop to that, except possibly narcissists or sociopaths, yet people on WP sometimes make it sound like a common occurrence.


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01 May 2012, 11:01 pm

hadn't heard that term before


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01 May 2012, 11:01 pm

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Joker you said women, which is plural. So I have discredited multiple women's opinions on WP? I haven't been a member very long, I must get around


To be fair TM and AspieRouge have not been members that long either but discredit a lot of things female WP members have to say.

But I apologize sorry.