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10 May 2012, 5:33 am

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Anything is possible nowadays... I say.


Anything is possible, but not everything is legal :lol:

I'd say it depends where you live, and how you feel about things. Like here the age of consent is 16, but I think how low you dip depends on your age. 40? Wouldn't go lower than mid 20's, and you'd do well to stay below mid 50's. As a 20 something I really wouldn't want to date a teenager again, and quite like 20's to early 40's.

When you only want to date age isn't too big a concern but when you have long term plans consider your partner's age and how that might come into play.



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10 May 2012, 1:24 pm

Dating =/= consent to have sex


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10 May 2012, 2:08 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:
Dating =/= consent to have sex


True. And not everyone experiences sexual desires... But for those who do, dating someone below that age threshold is a very, very bad idea.



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10 May 2012, 2:11 pm

Chris Hansen would agree.

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10 May 2012, 4:38 pm

The only written rule is make sure the person is eighteen or older. Other than that anyone is free to date anyone regardless of age. Of course that doesn't stop age limit from having unwritten rules. The thing I learned is that younger women and older men have the advantages in dating. Young women are free to date men as old as 50. Older men are able to find women 15 to 20 years younger than them if they look hard enough. But for younger men it's unheard of to date older women. As a young man, I can safely say I am unable to date women in their late 20's or early 30's as much as I want to. The unwritten rules can be a b!tch.


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10 May 2012, 9:21 pm

Homer_Bob wrote:
The only written rule is make sure the person is eighteen or older. Other than that anyone is free to date anyone regardless of age. Of course that doesn't stop age limit from having unwritten rules. The thing I learned is that younger women and older men have the advantages in dating. Young women are free to date men as old as 50. Older men are able to find women 15 to 20 years younger than them if they look hard enough. But for younger men it's unheard of to date older women. As a young man, I can safely say I am unable to date women in their late 20's or early 30's as much as I want to. The unwritten rules can be a b!tch.
When you factor in that AS is a developmental condition.an older AS man might be very compatible with a younger woman .Many men with AS in their thirties and above possibly may not have as much baggage which would also make them more compatible with a younger woman



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10 May 2012, 9:25 pm

I wouldn't date anyone under the age of 21. But I also wouldn't date anyone over the age of 30.

I want to have period of time to spend with a potential partner before nature decides we have to make up our minds on the family question.. lest it be made up for us.

as I've said before, I may actually be 27.. but emotionally I'm much closer to 23-24..



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11 May 2012, 9:44 am

Homer_Bob wrote:
The only written rule is make sure the person is eighteen or older. Other than that anyone is free to date anyone regardless of age. Of course that doesn't stop age limit from having unwritten rules. The thing I learned is that younger women and older men have the advantages in dating. Young women are free to date men as old as 50. Older men are able to find women 15 to 20 years younger than them if they look hard enough. But for younger men it's unheard of to date older women. As a young man, I can safely say I am unable to date women in their late 20's or early 30's as much as I want to. The unwritten rules can be a b!tch.


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11 May 2012, 9:50 am

:lmao:



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11 May 2012, 4:11 pm

Delphiki wrote:
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Delphiki wrote:
1. first take into consideration age of consent
2. mans age/2+7= minimum girls age

I've heard age/2+7 but also age/7+8. I guess it's different based on whether you round up or down when dividing odd numbers.


21/7+8 is 11... I don't think you heard that one correctly
That was a typo, thank you for pretending you didn't know that.



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11 May 2012, 7:18 pm

bruinsy33 wrote:
Homer_Bob wrote:
The only written rule is make sure the person is eighteen or older. Other than that anyone is free to date anyone regardless of age. Of course that doesn't stop age limit from having unwritten rules. The thing I learned is that younger women and older men have the advantages in dating. Young women are free to date men as old as 50. Older men are able to find women 15 to 20 years younger than them if they look hard enough. But for younger men it's unheard of to date older women. As a young man, I can safely say I am unable to date women in their late 20's or early 30's as much as I want to. The unwritten rules can be a b!tch.
When you factor in that AS is a developmental condition.an older AS man might be very compatible with a younger woman .Many men with AS in their thirties and above possibly may not have as much baggage which would also make them more compatible with a younger woman
For me it's the opposite. I live like I'm a forty year old and I'm very serious and focused for my age. Younger girls would probably find me really boring which in essence would make me more compatible with an actual adult women and not a "party going" young women. It depends on the person I guess.


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11 May 2012, 10:43 pm

MinorAnnoyance wrote:
Delphiki wrote:
MinorAnnoyance wrote:
Delphiki wrote:
1. first take into consideration age of consent
2. mans age/2+7= minimum girls age

I've heard age/2+7 but also age/7+8. I guess it's different based on whether you round up or down when dividing odd numbers.


21/7+8 is 11... I don't think you heard that one correctly
That was a typo, thank you for pretending you didn't know that.

I didn't know that


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12 May 2012, 5:17 am

Some very good ideas on here so far but I am curious about those people who have stated that it depends on the maturity, ect of the people involved. Surly a relationship between two people can not just be dependent on where you are in your life cycle. Would an 80 yo and 50/40/30 yo be considered as weird or inappropriate? Not that I am any of those ages I am simply wondering.


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12 May 2012, 5:40 am

mv wrote:
Homer_Bob wrote:
The only written rule is make sure the person is eighteen or older. Other than that anyone is free to date anyone regardless of age. Of course that doesn't stop age limit from having unwritten rules. The thing I learned is that younger women and older men have the advantages in dating. Young women are free to date men as old as 50. Older men are able to find women 15 to 20 years younger than them if they look hard enough. But for younger men it's unheard of to date older women. As a young man, I can safely say I am unable to date women in their late 20's or early 30's as much as I want to. The unwritten rules can be a b!tch.


How YOU doin'? :wink:

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If aspies aren't supposed to have a sense of humour, why is this one of the funniest forums I've ever been on???

And yeah this sort of thing is happening, actually there was a bit of a racy ad I saw a while back with this theme.

Anyhow ... +/- 5 years is generally the way I'd look at it for myself ... but that would be a very general rule of thumb ... really depends on the person but I think I'd draw my strict lines at mid-20s to early 50s, to cover exceptional circumstances.



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12 May 2012, 12:54 pm

This might help your understanding too:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_dispar ... ationships

I wouldn't use a percentage disparity as a guideline if I were you, though it might work for a few years. If you were to get really serious and expected it to last for life, you might want to look at your life expectancies and try to visualise how that might pan out....one thing that's held me back when I've felt attracted to much younger women has been that I don't want to die on them. But of course many factors affect life expectancy apart from date of birth, and somebody has to go first.



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16 May 2012, 4:21 am

Probably 18-26 or 27 is my limit. I have a hard time even thinking about dating someone in their 30's right now. I feel like too much of a kid for someone that age.