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13 May 2012, 4:20 pm

My first GF laughed out of shyness, still think she does.


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13 May 2012, 4:22 pm

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I don't feel awkward when I date, I feel it's more a ridiculous situation, as if I was a child trying to be an adult, or an actress on stage. I laugh when I kiss the guys, because they seem too serious and trascendental while kissing, and I don't understand that. I suppose I use the laughing as a shield because I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel I'm being myself doing serious and trascendental kisses.

Someone feels something similar?


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13 May 2012, 4:50 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:
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I don't feel awkward when I date, I feel it's more a ridiculous situation, as if I was a child trying to be an adult, or an actress on stage. I laugh when I kiss the guys, because they seem too serious and trascendental while kissing, and I don't understand that. I suppose I use the laughing as a shield because I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel I'm being myself doing serious and trascendental kisses.

Someone feels something similar?


Funniest thing I've read all day. Thanks.


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13 May 2012, 4:50 pm

Don't be like that.



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13 May 2012, 4:51 pm

PastFixations wrote:
My first GF laughed out of shyness, still think she does.


Well, laugh that comes from shyness is kind of cute :D



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13 May 2012, 4:52 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:
Don't be like that.


Like what?

English is not my first language, maybe I'm missing something...



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13 May 2012, 4:54 pm

Glad you found it funny, like I'm here entertain you.

Like that.



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13 May 2012, 5:02 pm

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Glad you found it funny, like I'm here entertain you.

Like that.


It was an innocent commentary without double meaning.



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13 May 2012, 5:06 pm

Cool.



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13 May 2012, 5:07 pm

The formal mode of sitting across the table from one another and interviewing as if we're in the Victorian era just clashes with our fundamental thinking on what healthy social dynamics and habits are. Its from that perspective that dating feels like a fail when its canned, deliberate, etc.


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13 May 2012, 5:09 pm

BanjoGirl wrote:
I don't feel awkward when I date, I feel it's more a ridiculous situation, as if I was a child trying to be an adult, or an actress on stage. I laugh when I kiss the guys, because they seem too serious and trascendental while kissing, and I don't understand that. I suppose I use the laughing as a shield because I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel I'm being myself doing serious and trascendental kisses.

Someone feels something similar?


I know exactly what you mean :)
I always feel a little akward, and misplaced in most dating-situations.
Like I'm an object that has absolutely nothing in common with the current surrounding,
( I also feel very "unwanted" at those moments )
I only expierience the 'Date' as some sort of Data-exchange, just information * which doesn't make any sense *.
I'm usually more occupied by my mind, making sure the Data is being processed well, then actually participating in
the emotional/irrational parts of dating.

When kissing someone, try not to analyse (very hard I know) what you're doing, and try not to focus on whatever emotions are activated by this akward an unnatural-feeling interaction that is supposed to be 'nice'.

( I'm sure It can be at some point, I've just never really felt comfortabel with these things, yet I DO long for it ??( My whole existence feels like a huge paradox))



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13 May 2012, 5:20 pm

BanjoGirl wrote:
I don't feel awkward when I date, I feel it's more a ridiculous situation, as if I was a child trying to be an adult, or an actress on stage. I laugh when I kiss the guys, because they seem too serious and trascendental while kissing, and I don't understand that. I suppose I use the laughing as a shield because I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel I'm being myself doing serious and trascendental kisses.

Someone feels something similar?


Ah that might because you are kissing NT guys who take themselves very seriously 8) Perhaps you should try an Aspie male. Just a suggestion :D



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13 May 2012, 5:36 pm

Innerpeace wrote:
BanjoGirl wrote:
I don't feel awkward when I date, I feel it's more a ridiculous situation, as if I was a child trying to be an adult, or an actress on stage. I laugh when I kiss the guys, because they seem too serious and trascendental while kissing, and I don't understand that. I suppose I use the laughing as a shield because I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel I'm being myself doing serious and trascendental kisses.

Someone feels something similar?


Ah that might because you are kissing NT guys who take themselves very seriously 8) Perhaps you should try an Aspie male. Just a suggestion :D


Being self serious isn't an NT specific trait.


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13 May 2012, 5:52 pm

Innerpeace wrote:
BanjoGirl wrote:
I don't feel awkward when I date, I feel it's more a ridiculous situation, as if I was a child trying to be an adult, or an actress on stage. I laugh when I kiss the guys, because they seem too serious and trascendental while kissing, and I don't understand that. I suppose I use the laughing as a shield because I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel I'm being myself doing serious and trascendental kisses.

Someone feels something similar?


Ah that might because you are kissing NT guys who take themselves very seriously 8) Perhaps you should try an Aspie male. Just a suggestion :D


I don't think it matters what type of guy is involved when kissing or whatever..
' Cause it doesn't theoretically change anything about the situation..
A guy is a guy, a kiss is a kiss...
* All men are weird, aspie or not *

( Just my opinion )



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14 May 2012, 7:28 am

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
Innerpeace wrote:
BanjoGirl wrote:
I don't feel awkward when I date, I feel it's more a ridiculous situation, as if I was a child trying to be an adult, or an actress on stage. I laugh when I kiss the guys, because they seem too serious and trascendental while kissing, and I don't understand that. I suppose I use the laughing as a shield because I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel I'm being myself doing serious and trascendental kisses.

Someone feels something similar?


Ah that might because you are kissing NT guys who take themselves very seriously 8) Perhaps you should try an Aspie male. Just a suggestion :D


Being self serious isn't an NT specific trait.


Ok maybe so. I guess I don't as a male take kissing too seriously. Whether thats because I am an Aspie or not I am not sure. I find generally there is alot of importance (in society in general) placed on many aspects of sexual interaction. I don't see what the big fuss is about myself. Ok so you're kissing. It means the skin on your lips is touching the skin of the lips of another person. Perhaps some saliva is exhanged. So what?