Problem speaking to women

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I disagree about the public transportation in relationships. I used the Internet to get a boyfriend/fiance, and now I use him to facilitate most of my other social relationships.

But seriously, I dislike women and girls for many reasons, and annoying sensitivity is one of them. Not all women are so self-conscious that they're going to be offended by you saying that a piece of chicken has a lot of fat on it. I fear, however, that most will. But do you really want to get involved with someone who takes offense to that kind of comment? Trust me, there are those who won't. It might not be easy, but I say look for those people instead trying to get romantically involved with someone that you will forever have to walk on eggshells with.

I agree with what other posters said. Joking is a great way to bow out gracefully. Self-depreciation and honest remorse are the ways to go if you've committed a social faux pas. You have to get vulnerable a little so that they'll feel more at ease getting vulnerable with you.

Unintentionally offending people is a major problem I have with NTs especially the women. Maybe your like me OP & simply are not compatible with the standard NT women because your too direct, straight-forward, don't pick up on the subtle hints, & listen to what women say instead of analyzing their actions with NT logic. Maybe it would help if you could figure out how to meet women that had some AS traits/issues/characteristics or were more direct with things. I had much better luck with those types of women. & my current relationship is going really well; she's not sure if she's an Aspie but she does have some Aspie traits & is direct with me & not offended by me being direct.

Well these two videos I made below have said something similar. But it has more advice for non aspies. It needed to be watched! I'm not having enough views, which that is why the problem resists....

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VMRStzVYL4Q[/youtube]

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nPwTiQKDMcc[/youtube]

"Talking to a women" for most of us would mean selling out.

Are you a sell out?

I'm not sure what would a male with aspergers would want to do with a women anyway ?

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Because I see l autistics in their late teens early 20's making the same mistakes that I did at that age and it upsets me.

.I think these people need to get their depression and anxiety issues in order (caused by humans ) and than they can realise the error of their ways. That's why I hope Loner Mutant gets his depression in order (may kill his sex drive) worked for me

Hold on. It could be women in general. They might find bit insensitive. Its their problem in the way they react. They may be depressed, or whatever. Bad body image, self-esteem issues or don't have trust in guys.

I just wandering around, not giving up while they causing more problems according to their reaction. I didn't had any reaction, that I used to when I was a teenager. Not now. I am too mature for this.

Well, in relation to this why would you want a woman stuff, 'my' aspie I was talking to yesterday pointed out how he has trouble dealing with my emotional and sensitive side but that he knows that even if he wasn't an Aspie men and women tend to differ in this way anyhow. It's a biological fact that women are more sensitive which is what makes them women. So if you like women for whatever reason this is what comes with the package. And in general for biological and social reasons men tend to be put off by too much emotion and like their space, whether they are on the Spectrum or not. So it's about reaching a happy medium and accepting the fact that women are different I guess. And don't forget that opposites can attract. But maybe it would be easier to find a woman who does have more Aspie type traits if this is a big issue. In relation to your video, might I suggest without offending you that I personally would consider your attractions enhanced if you took off the hat? I would also suggest that the flag, while it is a symbol to be proud of, is somewhat intimidating in the background? I hope I'm not crossing the line making those suggestions, and I suppose other women would receive different impressions to me. You seem like a really nice and good-looking man so I wish you all luck in your quest.