DW_a_mom wrote:
Be aware, guys, that the naturally thin Emily was upset by this, as were woman all over the internet, and her explanation was this, not that she told him: she'd like to think that her husband falls in love with her heart, and not her looks.
Which, in a nutshell, is how all women I know in real life feel.
Make those kinds of comments, and women get turned off. Think all you want about fair or not fair, your right to be attracted, and so, but talk or think like that, and odds are good you move into the dud column with women you are interested in.
The right answer? If a girlfriend or wife gained weight, you can say you'd be concerned about her health, and would be willing to run with her or walk with her or cook for her to help her out, but you'd love her no matter what.
I don't love souls nor "hearts". I don't see them, I don't even believe in a soul.
I can love a woman and her attitude. I can love a caring woman with a beautiful smile who takes care or herself. I couldn't care less about weight in, let's say, 10 pound range, but I sure won't be attracted to a 200 pounds woman, it's just impossible. As impossible as being attracted to a woman who can't read a book and just watches TV.
A woman who is lazy, don't work out, stuff herself with sweets and blames society on "impossible standards" is NOT a woman whose attitude I'd approve and love. A woman who makes NO EFFORT to be interesting and accuses men of being "shallow"for not seeing her "beautiful interior" is irrelevant to me.
So yes... if a gf of mine gained weight, I'd encourage her to fight it. If I saw no effort, bye bye.
I read, study and work out. Why is it unreal or shallow to be attracted to someone like me?
You don't have to be a champion of fitness, have a phd or anything.... but really, make an effort.
EDIT: so... if someone asks me if I find obese women attractive, I'll say NO. It's that simple. I'd never point at a woman and state that she's unnatractive for no reason. I don't like to offend people, but I'll answer if asked.
That's how I see it.
Last edited by mike_br on 30 May 2012, 5:48 pm, edited 2 times in total.