Giving up

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I threw in the towel recently as well. I decided that I too much other stuff going on in my life, such as college, family, friends, etc. I am choosing the second scenario described. I have recently started making art again, and my writing has improved a lot over the past few months. I'm focusing on my interests and the people who I have in my life already. Trying to find a relationship is a painful and exhausting waste of time. I threw in the towel in January 2012 after a painful heartbreak in December 2011, but I don't want to get into the details of it. I really don't want to go through that crap again, and if I look for a relationship, it's bound to happen. Life is too precious to waste my time on useless endeavors.

You really have to find happiness within yourself.

I came to the conclusion a while back that sex is really the only thing that I really want out of dating. All of the other BS that relationships involve I couldn't care less about.

Probably good qualities to have, but they don't interest me. Having small joys and pleasures fill small gaps. You can't camouflage a giant gaping hole, much like all the advice on L&D is to camouflage personality and become a walking stereotype just to fill the same hole.

Nah, I've completely given up. Broken. Perhaps it'd be better for everyone if I tried not coming over here to L&D, I just don't any hope left...go for it if you do.

Have to agree. I do have my hobbies and I still manage to find some enjoyment out of them, but it's nothing compared to the feeling I've had with people I've been particularly close to. And when it's in your face all the time, whether it's media or strangers or friends or whoever else, it's a constant reminder of what's missing. Doesn't help that it seems I'm treated as something less because I'm alone. Always being the third wheel blows. I'm sure my friends don't really mean to do it, but it still happens. Just a fact of life I guess.

Maybe it's my own fault for not being able to be satisfied by small, simple things. It's certainly not anyone else's problem. I'd just rather not have to be obsessed with material things or have my own happiness rely on them. So many years have been lost just playing video games or reading books, that all the time wasted has been nothing more than a meaningless blur. May as well have bene sleep walking through life.

Happiness within yourself is a recipe for going crazy

why?

Jeez, you asked for it. Here goes:

I live in my head all the time. It could be said my head is so far up my ass I'm in my own intestinally-based reality.

I don't make the time to actually maintain relationships with people. A romantic interest may be in my interest but the other person involved will find significant challenges.

My childhood has compelled me to believe in the idea of the sins of the parents echoing down through the children. There are a large number of sins built up that are now my problem. I can handle my problems. I'd prefer not to dump them on others.

In short, I'm a waste of time for this sort of thing, and I'm aware of it. Someone who would put up with this... well, what sort of thing is that for someone to ask for?

Well, I'm guess I'm done for good. I'm done being rejected. Done playing stupid games, jumping through hoops, selling myself as if I'm some kind of toy or cattle or whatever other product, just to convince others that I'm worth any of their time. It's ridiculous the way humans treat each other and I can not see myself ever wanting to spend my life with people so disgusting.

Hey BoxMan.

Sorry to hear things are not as you would like them to be.
Throwing in the towel isn't a bad thing. It's only losing a battle, not the war. You can try again in the future.

I found what some members have said here in the past has made a lot of sense, and that is you cannot expect people to be happy with you if you are not already happy yourself. You should have positivity to share, not be extracted from another person.

Find something else in life that makes you happy, become passionate about it and be happy. While happy, restart your search for the person that will make you even happier I found when I am at my most content I didn't even have to search, a girl would come to me because I invited them into my life. You seem like a good dude and probably the same could be said for you.

because its something that will mean giving up on a lot of things. Things that as humans we dont want to give up on. So likelyhood is youll find other ways of getting those things. Perfect example being the crazy cat lady

There wouldn't be much of a point if I could be just as happy going solo. Kind of defeats the purpose.

Ive had two failed attempts so far, so 3 strikes go by I'm out. However this doesnt mean I have to go on an marry the next girl I like. It means the relationship has to be successful, it has to go somewhere, we have to do stuff. It can't be too short. Basically of the next relationship isn't something 'real' as in it's what real people in relationships do and not what others would call 'friends' it makes sense to me so that's all that matters. Me being young though means giving up probably won't last forever, but it will last atleast until I'm out of school