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21 Jun 2012, 11:04 pm
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
Kinme wrote:
bizboy1 wrote:
You could always make up one lol.
LOL! Good way to begin a relationship: lie about previous relationships. Hahahaha.
Hey if telling the truth gets you nowhere then why not? Sometimes being honest ends up hurting you more. Doesn't make sense to be honest then. If a guy puts a gun to your head and says he'll pull the trigger if you tell him that you're gay, and you're gay, would you tell the truth? I think not.
yup cause not getting laid when you want is just like being the victim of hate crime
It's not smart to lie when you're looking for more than a casual hook-up (though in that case it's still a jerk move) because at some point, you're going to get caught or have your energy get caught up in lie maintenance.
Let's assume it's not a casual hook-up and that the two individuals are pursuing a relationship. Let's also say that the two individuals have been having a successful relationship for X months. Now let's assume she finds out that you lied about a previous relationship after X months. I claim A) she will either leave you or B) she will be upset but will still stay with you. I claim B) is more probable, especially if the lie is insignificant. Thus if you can judge the odds ahead of time when one is determining to lie or not, one will be better off. By the time she finds out, it's probably unlikely for her to break up given the triviality of the matter. And if she decides to leave you, at least you got laid many times and you're still better of than you were lol.
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22 Jun 2012, 12:01 am
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
Kinme wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
Dating is a strategy game, let's not beat around the bush. The only difference between players and honest people is the end goal.
A player wants to sleep with the girl or use her.
A honest guy wants a relationship.
Both play the game.
As we get older, there are fewer pretty well balanced single girls. Which means more guys hitting on them. You've got to have a strategy to get to the front of the line.
A player wants to sleep with the girl or use her.
A honest guy wants a relationship.
Both play the game.
As we get older, there are fewer pretty well balanced single girls. Which means more guys hitting on them. You've got to have a strategy to get to the front of the line.
I admit. I just don't see the appeal of the contortion and manipulation. There's putting your best foot forward, and there's making a paper mache foot covering it in glitter and waving it around.
...there are also less attractive guys...people partner up and the less "issues" a person has, the easier it's likely to be for them to do so
the funny thing about monogamy (even serial monogamy) is that excluding those who aren't straight, for every woman you get's laid/married whatever, a man does too.
But if we're including young in pretty, than yes, as you age there is going to be less availability because there are only so many girls with that kind of daddy issue.
@bizboy:
cool, you can be an ass but it's alright because as long as you can hide it long enough to entrench her she may not outright leave
why have a relationship built on mutual trust and respect when you can have all that
General question - Does getting laid justify unethical behavior? How far does this go...
Since I haven't gotten laid, and am waiting for marriage to do so, I'm not sure. The people I've seen on here and met in real life will seem to do almost anything. Why not just get a prostitute and get it over with?
as I understand it, because that doesn't validate ego
What if the prostitute is very attractive? Isn't that all that matters? Or is this some kind of chase and win type thing?
22 Jun 2012, 12:09 am
Kinme wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
Kinme wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
Dating is a strategy game, let's not beat around the bush. The only difference between players and honest people is the end goal.
A player wants to sleep with the girl or use her.
A honest guy wants a relationship.
Both play the game.
As we get older, there are fewer pretty well balanced single girls. Which means more guys hitting on them. You've got to have a strategy to get to the front of the line.
A player wants to sleep with the girl or use her.
A honest guy wants a relationship.
Both play the game.
As we get older, there are fewer pretty well balanced single girls. Which means more guys hitting on them. You've got to have a strategy to get to the front of the line.
I admit. I just don't see the appeal of the contortion and manipulation. There's putting your best foot forward, and there's making a paper mache foot covering it in glitter and waving it around.
...there are also less attractive guys...people partner up and the less "issues" a person has, the easier it's likely to be for them to do so
the funny thing about monogamy (even serial monogamy) is that excluding those who aren't straight, for every woman you get's laid/married whatever, a man does too.
But if we're including young in pretty, than yes, as you age there is going to be less availability because there are only so many girls with that kind of daddy issue.
@bizboy:
cool, you can be an ass but it's alright because as long as you can hide it long enough to entrench her she may not outright leave
why have a relationship built on mutual trust and respect when you can have all that
General question - Does getting laid justify unethical behavior? How far does this go...
Since I haven't gotten laid, and am waiting for marriage to do so, I'm not sure. The people I've seen on here and met in real life will seem to do almost anything. Why not just get a prostitute and get it over with?
as I understand it, because that doesn't validate ego
What if the prostitute is very attractive? Isn't that all that matters? Or is this some kind of chase and win type thing?getting the 'hot' woman is about status, if you pay for it, you can't bag about it
yes it is a chase and win thing, it's also a 'peer validation' thing
22 Jun 2012, 12:12 am
Kinme wrote:
What if the prostitute is very attractive? Isn't that all that matters? Or is this some kind of chase and win type thing?Also... it's because the chase and win does have an end in sight. For me, as an example, I can 'function' through the process way better than through a deep relationship, where feelings and empathy are needed.
Also, I don't have to lie... just don't promisse anything.
As for the OP:
Instead of making up stories about not having had time because of career or making up past girls... let me ask you:
WHY didn't you have a realtionship, in your opinion?
Maybe the answer will provide a way
Last edited by mike_br on 22 Jun 2012, 12:14 am, edited 1 time in total.
22 Jun 2012, 12:13 am
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
Kinme wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
Kinme wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
Dating is a strategy game, let's not beat around the bush. The only difference between players and honest people is the end goal.
A player wants to sleep with the girl or use her.
A honest guy wants a relationship.
Both play the game.
As we get older, there are fewer pretty well balanced single girls. Which means more guys hitting on them. You've got to have a strategy to get to the front of the line.
A player wants to sleep with the girl or use her.
A honest guy wants a relationship.
Both play the game.
As we get older, there are fewer pretty well balanced single girls. Which means more guys hitting on them. You've got to have a strategy to get to the front of the line.
I admit. I just don't see the appeal of the contortion and manipulation. There's putting your best foot forward, and there's making a paper mache foot covering it in glitter and waving it around.
...there are also less attractive guys...people partner up and the less "issues" a person has, the easier it's likely to be for them to do so
the funny thing about monogamy (even serial monogamy) is that excluding those who aren't straight, for every woman you get's laid/married whatever, a man does too.
But if we're including young in pretty, than yes, as you age there is going to be less availability because there are only so many girls with that kind of daddy issue.
@bizboy:
cool, you can be an ass but it's alright because as long as you can hide it long enough to entrench her she may not outright leave
why have a relationship built on mutual trust and respect when you can have all that
General question - Does getting laid justify unethical behavior? How far does this go...
Since I haven't gotten laid, and am waiting for marriage to do so, I'm not sure. The people I've seen on here and met in real life will seem to do almost anything. Why not just get a prostitute and get it over with?
as I understand it, because that doesn't validate ego
What if the prostitute is very attractive? Isn't that all that matters? Or is this some kind of chase and win type thing?getting the 'hot' woman is about status, if you pay for it, you can't bag about it
yes it is a chase and win thing, it's also a 'peer validation' thing
I completely forgot about that. Is this the same for women? I'm really not sure.
Makes sense. Gotta keep up their image, after all.
22 Jun 2012, 12:14 am
mike_br wrote:
Kinme wrote:
What if the prostitute is very attractive? Isn't that all that matters? Or is this some kind of chase and win type thing?Also... it's because the chase and win does have an end in sight. For me, as an example, I can 'function' through the process way better than through a deep relationship, where feelings and empathy are needed.
Also, I don't have to lie... just don't promisse anything.
As for the OP:
Instead of making up stories about not having had time because of career or making up past girls... let me ask you:
WHY didn't you have a realtionship, in your opinion?
Maybe the answer will provide a way
That also makes sense. Thanks.
22 Jun 2012, 12:23 am
