What females really want

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But you know, in research, when they use terms like "most", they mean more than 50%, and when they talk about trends, there can be plenty of outliers and groups who do not fit the trend. Results in research focus on generalisations; rarely will they report that EVERYONE or NEARLY EVERYONE is the same.

Being an aphla males just means you show qualities of Economic Capacity, Social Status, Age (I mean with this, woman on average find male who are a little bit older more attractive), Ambition and Industriousness ( showing confidence ius a sign of this), Dependability and Stability (emotional stable life for example), Intelligence (female aspies are much more attracted to intelligence than other females I noticed, so a quiet introvert person is something aspie females search), Compatibility (obvious), Size and Strength (woman on average choose someone who's a little bit taller), Good Health (very important aspect, it goes with strength and size, females search for a man with good health, important indication of a good baby ...)

Love and Commitment (most important factor!)

Yes I know that...
But this outliers can be explained equally.
That is the whole point of a female aspie and a male aspie.
They are differently adapted, and are attracted to different things mostly in comparison to neurotypical males/females
But still they have similarities, like you beautiful said.
that is the whole point why asperger syndrome is a disorder, most people are annoyed by us aspies.

That is the reason why I think asperger syndrome is not a disease, disorder, or anything wrong.
the research on mating behaviour works good for almost all neurotypicals, but if you do research in aspie mating behaviour you could find it also ...

I think a good example is this video, I've met 3 aspies and all fit the 'intellectual orgasm' what tony attwood said.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kyjbtJ_3vqs

OK, this may sound unkind and I'm sorry. I suspect I am going to regret getting involved in this.

Yes, your age does have something to do with it. Theory is great, and watching the mating behaviour of animals is interesting and instructive but it is not the same as having real life experience of adult relationships with another human being. I don't know everything, and I'd happily accept that someone who has been married 20 years may well know more than I do. I do know what I am looking for, because I have found it.

To be fair the reason for my frustration with this thread is that there have been several similar threads on 'What females want'. I find it a little tragic to see so many men who seem unable to relate to women on any level other than a purely biological one. Biology is important but we are a little more complex than that. All the time humans make relationship choices that make little biological sense, such as falling in love with people who have genetic conditions, or who are infertile or who are the same gender as them.

Someone gets it
This is why science will not make any absolute rules on human behaviour, only direct correlations.

Sorry but it was not my attention 'what females want' to sound rude or something, I just wanted to make this topic to tell other males how you can find people who are nice and start a happy family!

I don't think I'm such a man tbh, when I'm in my personal relationship with my girlfriend I don't play with her or use science or something ...
We just do things together we both love, and we love each other so much :]

I don't think woman are any worse or better than males or something, I'm just saying that it's all scientific.

I'm off to eat, I can response soon

@Who_Am_I

Has nothing to do with the discussion.

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I think you should come back to your own discussion when you yourself know what you are saying.
I don't doubt the credibility of some of your sources, but I do doubt your ability to understand those sources within their context and apply them to the world as you do (and don't) know it.

Additional comment; you cannot refute non biological choices with biological choice.

It's a mistake to think that because a trait is widely found in a population, that every member of said population will possess that trait.
For example, many men enjoy watching sport on television.
However, it does not follow that simply because someone is a man, they enjoy watching sport on television, and that they're lying or in denial if they say they don't.

I would also like to point out that when decent scientists get data that doesn't match their hypothesis (in this thread, women have spoken up saying what they actually go for in men), they modify their hypothesis; they don't insinuate that the data is lying or doesn't know it's own mind.
I am almost certain that everyone has posted in this thread knows their own mind/experiences/pattern of choices better than some armchair psychologist who's read a few articles and now knows everything about how people work.

You people just can't accept that we are nothing more than an animal with an ego that think of himself as an individual...
We have no free will, and we don't have a choice which mate is good or which is bad. We just feel attracted to some mates and we can do research here.

If we do research here for example 100 people we can conclude things which woman mostly like. ----> neurotypical brain, neurotypical behaviour ...
Some people don't fit this. ----> for example aspie brains, aspie behaviour

But if we take for example again 100 aspies who don't fit, we can see relations.
And yes, we can conclude generalisations which fit most aspies in what they prefer in other mates, and what is attractive to them.

You're just repeating the same things over and over without addressing any of the points people make. This is not how to have a good debate.

Is it that

A. You can't understand what people are saying?

B. You can't argue against our points and are evading?

C. You have an uncontrollable urge to repeat yourself?

I conclude that you're an idiot and don't know what you're talking about.
You could ultimately prove me wrong but I could argue you don't understand you are just a (barely) sentient being with an ego and it is within your nature to be stupid no matter what you do.

Do you see what I did there?

Okay, I'll answer everythign what you guys said.