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That is great advice, I was thinking about this but never pursuited it wouldn't know where to start, They don't really advertise everywhere their generation might see it as weird here where i live and i don't want to pay for using hook up sites, They take advantage of all the single people in the world and are raking in the cash >_>

My husband and I always took turns paying when we go out.

The reason why I prefer paying for what I consume is that normally I budget for these things (I'm poor), and I make sure I only order what food/do what activities I can afford.
I don't like having to predict how much the other person may spend.

Oh, and I don't like having my stuff paid for because it makes me indebted to the other person (even if it's only a debt of gratitude), and thus a power imbalance, and I have some serious issues with power imbalances.

I do not dislike paying for things, but I dislike consumism. I dislike buying things just for the sake of it. I think I am the only woman I know who do not like going shopping. I use things until I wear them out. I specially dislike going shopping with my husband and daughter, because they love buying things. I went shopping with my husband once because I needed one pair of shoes. We started fighting in front of the sales woman because he wanted to buy me two other pair of shoes he liked. I left the store with three pair of shoes, the one I needed and the two he bought for me. I ended up giving away the other two pairs of shoes after only wearing them about two times each pair. I am the kind of person who only wear one pair of shoes at the time. I currently have 4 pair of shoes: one for going out, one for special ocassions (which I rarely use), one for exercising, and one for staying home.

I don't like having someone buy me everything either. I used to get mad at my husband for that. But it's okay sometimes IMO but have him do that with everything I am not comfortable with.

But I always look on the bright side, more money and I didn't have to spend it if the date pays for the date.

Yes I do not mind paying and/or going dutch sometimes. I am impressed if the guy pays on the first date.

Girl's don't like cheapskates.

Thank you. Don't be a leech!

That said, I can totally appreciate the need for getting a good value for my money. If I didn't get a good deal I get pretty serious buyer's remorse. If I go cheap and get something crappy and inadequate, I'm not happy either.

I'm only perfectly happy if I got something good, cheap. But I know how to shop and that happens with interesting regularity.

I'd rather be single than with a girl like that.

i kind of like paying - i prefer to pay a larger proportion of EVERYTHING, given the choice. sometimes i fancy myself as a man with old-fashioned manners and i like to give gifts and take a person out on a chivalrous date. the fact that it doesn't really work for men to do that with women anymore makes it all the more fun to have a role reversal. in reality i tend to tone it down to a large degree as i think my fantasies would probably embarrass any date (male or female). but it's fun to think about.

i suppose that the issue at the core is the fact that these decisions are socially-charged, and in our modern society we all have different ideas. these ideas may or may not mesh with our dates.

That's the best way to go, however in certain countries such as Greece, men are expected to pay the full amount for the date so it really depends on your culture as well. Dating is viewed as a casual activity in the US whereas in Europe, it tends to be a more formal type of courting.

I wasn't even talking about dating anyway i pay for myself and you pay for yourself i am all for equal equality

So this is a Haven matter?
Stand and Deliver, your money or your life.

Last edited by PastFixations on 09 Jul 2012, 5:58 am, edited 1 time in total.

Greece and paying are two words that don't go well together.

I believe that theres a huge misconception about the concept of dates.

Something doesnt have to be pricey to impress the other person and in most occasions the food is pretty much irrelevant provided that you dont go to a Mcdonalds or something similar(too many people/its usually too messy for a first date...).

Last Saturday I was out at the city centre with a few friends and we ended up staying late so I told them that we should go to a cheap restaurant that was near us.
When we arrived it wasnt open yet so we stayed around there talking about life and stuff for half an hour.

After this half an hour it opened and we went in.
We spent less than $2 each(Its something that can make you full in almost no time and we went into a convenience store to get some drinks/food in the 30 minutes wait), by the time we were done everyone agreed it was a great idea to go there.


On Sunday I was approached by a random person for the first time(I had seen her previously but never talked to her or anything). Apparently she was dating one of my accompanies and she had heard so much about this place that she needed the name of the place/what we ordered.


The sunday before a friend and I took two random girls to a place thats famous for being one of the cheapest restaurants in the whole city(we kept asking people we knew but they all had plans, this girls were with our friends and said yes).
We spent about 45 minutes just getting a seat there(its usually pretty crowded) but we managed to make something out of the whole situation and we all had a great meal with plenty of food/talking/laughs for less than $6 each.