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19 Jul 2012, 12:08 am

JanuaryMan wrote:

To quote the OP:

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Even if it's in my imagination, I'm going to go with it. I'm not going to pursue it by any stretch because she's 17 and I'm pushing 40 (and I'm married) but it's nice to feel liked once in a while. Not to mention not wanting to upset her father. That would be bad.

I really wouldn't be so sure, MXH. Freudian slip, maybe, or just Aspie jumbling of words. But I think the OP is already getting quite lost in this fantasy. The wife doesn't seem to be as much of a problem as upsetting the girl's father....

Yeah, Grue, just don't pursue this. Work out whatever marriage troubles you are having, perhaps spice your sex life up and forget this kid. For your sake, for their sake, for their family's sake, for your family's sake.

i interpreted that as him not budging in and letting things stay as they are. Not as him advancing into something with her.

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19 Jul 2012, 12:09 am

Also I think we are forgetting the possibility that you're incorrect. Your interpretation of her flirting with you could be dead wrong. I think the probability that you're wrong is higher than the probability that a 17 is attracted to a 40 year old dungeon and dragon player. If you're right, then you hit the jack-pot. If you're wrong, well you might be banned from the gaming store.

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19 Jul 2012, 12:16 am

MXH wrote:

JanuaryMan wrote:

To quote the OP:

Grue wrote:

i interpreted that as him not budging in and letting things stay as they are. Not as him advancing into something with her.

Hmm, but then if you know a girl likes you and you still throw on the jokes and charm and those things she likes about you, you are not really halting the situation, either. So "going with it" if that is what is meant may not be the best course of action here. Had this been a different scenario (not married, the love interest is of consenting age) then yes sure where's the harm in a bit of attention.

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19 Jul 2012, 12:21 am

JanuaryMan wrote:

MXH wrote:

JanuaryMan wrote:

To quote the OP:

Grue wrote:

i interpreted that as him not budging in and letting things stay as they are. Not as him advancing into something with her.

like i said, im sure a bit of attention is something everyone craves in that situation. I just think so long as he stays adult on this (and by that i mean acting as an adult, not acting as an adult movie) there shouldnt be much wrong. Would it be easier to just avoid the whole situation? Yes.

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19 Jul 2012, 12:23 am

I like the way you are more concerned about upsetting the girls' father than you are about upsetting your wife. Disloyal much? (Im being super sarcastic!)

I do think she is emitting signals that she likes you- in what way- who knows? SHe could have a crush bcs ahe considers you "safe" being married and all. This is where guys get a lil creepy bcs they take a sitch like that and take it too far thus showing their growth and development both emotionally and spiritually to be zero since the year they too were 17!

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19 Jul 2012, 12:24 am

Grue wrote:

In our Dungeons and Dragons group, there's a lovely 17 year old girl and her father. I'm convinced the girl likes me.

There are some signs; I will say something funny. I think they're funny because, hey, I'm hillarious. 90% of the time, no one will laugh - no one but her. I find that she'll laugh at most anything I say that's obviously meant to be funny even if it wasn't too terribly so.

Today, she offered out of the clear blue sky, to loan me Firefly on blu-ray. Also, at the end of the game we roll to see who gets what loot we've collected in our travels. There was a +1 sword (+3 against goblins) that glows in the presence of goblins and goblin-like creatures. Everyone in the group wanted it. She rolled highest for it and just up and gave it to me.

Even if it's in my imagination, I'm going to go with it. I'm not going to pursue it by any stretch because she's 17 and I'm pushing 40 (and I'm married) but it's nice to feel liked once in a while. Not to mention not wanting to upset her father. That would be bad.

it is pretty likely that the girl is NOT giving you signals that she finds you attractive right in front of her father. most people will tend to tone it down in front of their parents. perhaps she sees you as a funny uncle, or maybe her dad goes on and on about how funny you are.

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19 Jul 2012, 6:14 am

There is a saying in my country: "El que se acuesta con chiquillo, amanece cagado" (who goes into bed with a child, wakes up all spoiled). That is a very true saying. I can understand you feel flattered, but teenagers are unpredictable. If she really falls for you (that means if she notices any sign that you like her, too), she can start building castles in her head and who knows what she could be capable of. I say dont play with fire or you can end up burned.

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19 Jul 2012, 6:28 am

Been reading a lot of misinterpretations. Of course I wouldn't pursue it. First and foremost and I know the poster was being sarcastic but I am married. Sure, she never is in the mood but I've still got Mary Palmer and her 10 friends (yes, I'm ambidextrous) and I love her. Second, and a damn close second is that she's 17. Age of consent with parents' permission is 16 where I live. Still...17...ew. 20, MAYBE. 17, fuggetaboudit!

I never initiate. I just say what I say regardless of who's present and do what I do. I'm not going to change that because some girl has a crush on me. I'm not not going to go to games or I'm not going to dwell in the background. If she likes me, great. It makes me feel desirable but I'll do noting to perpetuate it or give her signals that I'm interested in any way, shape or form.

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19 Jul 2012, 7:14 am

Did you just want this story off your chest then? Cos I don't get why you shared it.

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19 Jul 2012, 8:23 am

sharing is caring. Where else to share stores than on a forum?

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19 Jul 2012, 10:36 am

do not get involved with an under age person (younger than able to vote, join the military, sign a contract) for any reason.

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19 Jul 2012, 11:27 am

Are people thoroughly reading my posts or just skimming?

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19 Jul 2012, 11:43 am

Grue wrote:

sharing is caring. Where else to share stores than on a forum?

I guess you haven't earned that "status" yet on here.

When I was in high school I used hang out in my art teacher's office. Some other teachers also used to hang out in there and years later my art teacher told me that one of them had fancied me. I had no idea and although I really enjoyed talking with him I did not like him THAT way, so I'm glad he never showed any signs of his feelings. It would've made me very uncomfortable.

Judging from the fact this girl likes to hang out with her dad and play D&D, she sounds quite childlike still compare to her peers. She likes you but probably is not attracted to you sexually. If you keep that in mind, I don't think there is anything wrong with enjoying her attention. But it would be best if you don't engage in conversations with her alone.

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