UnBored wrote:
I personally think that meeting someone after falling for them purely through their words is a much better way of getting to know someone, providing there have been no lies on either side you end up with a much greater bond and i'd even say that you know who someone is better than from meeting in real life first, meeting someone in real life puts up barriers and online side steps that. Consider the anonymity of online, it's not often that people would ever be that open in real life.
My experience of meeting someone online, my first relationship came from meeting online back in the late 90s when i was like 17, it started as friends and i didn't even know what she looked like for the first 3 years ish of knowing her, then i moved away from internet access and we moved onto letters and the phone and things developed from that. Then we met and i found that all that we'd built up through getting to know each other online totally carries through to real life. Scarily so. It was like meeting this really attractive girl for the first time except we had all the comfort and familiarity of having known each other for a good 4 years. It's frighteningly potent.
Online may be new but meeting and getting to know someone long distance has been around for a long time. They're called letters. This kind of relationship building is tried, tested and nothing at all new. Don't be embarrassed people, this is probably the way that aspies have been meeting for generations, we're very rare and on top of that every aspie is unique, it's always going to be a long hard search to find someone compatible.
wow, your post is awesome. i like the way you have described your experiences.
you are right about how long distance relationships have a precedent. i have read some old stories of people meeting through the newspaper ads in Victorian times.
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