Men, what do you think of women who are quiet and shy?

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Adorable!! !

I find them completely approachable and likeable. I might even do most of the talking which is saying a heck of a lot. Ironically, most of them already have boyfriends too so finding one to date is no harder than any other type of girl.

I can either be shy or social depending on the situation. Often times Im not sure how Im supposed to act in certain situations or what to say so I just sit down and shut up. Other times when conversation is going on and i feel welcome, Im going to be a social butterfly probably flitting around from conversation to conversation.

When looking for girls though, I do prefer them to be more social than I am because I am a completely clutz when it comes to talking to girls romantically. I dont exactly know the rules of girl/girl relationships like I do girl/guy relationships so I tend to gravitate towards girls who are social and outgoing and well more experienced.

I think they're cute. I tend to be a lot more attracted to them than the typical women

I'm quiet and shy, and what is this...

They're cute. If only they were interested in me.

What I think is generally "Y they no talk to me?!"

And that's about it. As far as romantic interests, usually I don't really feel that attracted to them, much preferring more outgoing types.

That said, I think there's a huge difference of quiet and shy, and quiet and shy...and interesting. There's some girls who are initially quiet and shy, but then as you talk to them more they turn out to be more than expected, but I'd say those many times have "Aspie" qualities. One girl I know seemed just "shy" at first, then as I got to know her more she seemed to have NVLD/ASD qualities she was just hiding well, I swear she's like the closest I've met to a female me.

Interestingly, there was this one girl I worked with who was quite quiet and seemingly shy, and I worked a booth with her, and I remarked how me and her talked a good deal. My friend was like, "How'd you crack her?" and I was just like "Huh?" Apparently nobody could talk to her about like...anything. But I just did. I think part could be either we sensed a kindred spirit in each other (she was always reading books all the time, and had a good vocabulary) or I was just so oblivious I didn't think shy/quiet=not wanting to be talked to. Who knows.

I guess my opinion is mostly apathy about the subject. I do find them sometimes harder to approach, if they seem like they really don't want to be bothered, but mostly it's just not something I think about much.

I often joke about being attracted to the wrong kind of women(for some reason knowing that we wouldnt be a good match for this/that reason makes me think about them more frequently, you know how it goes)

Im trying to work on that but in the mean time girls that seem unapproachable for several meetings/days are pretty irresistible.

Yes it makes no sense and its an extremely bad way of trying to find someone. Which is why I havent been looking for anyone lately until I sort it out.

I can find them just as endearing and loveable as the opposite types.

If they don't really say much or form an opinion, it's a big turn off for me.

But if she's reserved but trusting enough to be herself and has soe self-expression with a few people then I can see that as very attractive.

I've had my crushes on shy women. As was said before, they do become more confident speaking when they're comfortable with you. My girlfriend wouldn't talk to anybody when I first met her, and she ignored me. But then afterwards, we sort of chatted when I made small talk (it was very awkward) and then after I added her on Facebook, she opened up to the point where she started to flirt with me (it took me two months after that to realize she liked me). Once I somehow got past the layers, she then confessed her feelings shyly over the phone and we've been together ever since.

Not less attractive. But they can seem less approachable.

I do NOT get that opposites attract thing. Maybe I'm more practical or logical with attraction. Shy quiet types seem more relatable to me. The more outgoing talkative women(or people in general) are more apt to have qualities that I'm unattracted to like partying. I was never wanting a relationship so I could have someone make me get out of my shell. I do want to get out of my shell more & I am making some progress but I kind of need to do that at my own pace & on my own terms. Someone who's more talkative & friendly is more likely to have a wider circle of friends than someone who doesn't. I find I get drained talking to people who are very talkative; when I'm with people offline I'd rather focus on something other than talking like the experience of doing something with them instead of chit-chatting. Shy people can become less shy after they've gotten to know you a bit & also the environment can really affect how comfortable the person is with talking. I'm a lot shyer meeting new people than people I've known a while & feel comfortable with; I can be a little intimidated by people who are very talkative with me when we 1st meet when others are around. Shy quiet types can have a certain vibe that makes me feel more safe & secure than around people who are more social. We can be nervous talking to each other at 1st & work up to being comfortable instead of me feeling like I'm pressured/forced to talk by someone who's very talkative with me.

My girlfriend is shy & quiet & I feel like we are on the same level with things; she's more shy in some ways but I think it works well for us because when we do something offline that kind of forces us to interact with strangers; i do more of the talking than her. I don't exactly like having to talk but I do it because she's more uncomfortable with it than me; it's kind of a growing/learning experience for both of us because I have to talk to people more than I like & she's being more outgoing than she would on her own.