Telling my boyfriend about having aspergers.

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WantToHaveALife
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20 Sep 2012, 1:25 am

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When I read your post, I thought at first your question was "What should you do about your aspergers"

It's possible that he truly does not see it in you. That is probably a very good thing if it's true.

I agree, don't let your diagnosis define you or become a special interest, especially if your already having a productive life.


well having aspergers hurts men more than women, initially mainly since that is the biggest step



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20 Sep 2012, 1:24 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
When I read your post, I thought at first your question was "What should you do about your aspergers"

It's possible that he truly does not see it in you. That is probably a very good thing if it's true.

I agree, don't let your diagnosis define you or become a special interest, especially if your already having a productive life.


well having aspergers hurts men more than women, initially mainly since that is the biggest step
Do you mean it is diagnosed more in men than women?


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20 Sep 2012, 3:29 pm

Delphiki wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
thewhitrbbit wrote:
When I read your post, I thought at first your question was "What should you do about your aspergers"

It's possible that he truly does not see it in you. That is probably a very good thing if it's true.

I agree, don't let your diagnosis define you or become a special interest, especially if your already having a productive life.


well having aspergers hurts men more than women, initially mainly since that is the biggest step
Do you mean it is diagnosed more in men than women?


no i mean that the odds, chances of an aspie girl getting a boyfriend, landing a relationship, are much greater than that of the odds, chances of an aspie guy getting a girlfriend, landing a relationship, because i'm sure it is more relatively common for aspie girls to be dating neurotypical guys than vice-versa, the other way around, since guys have to make the first move, approach, initiate conversations and flirting, asking out, aspie makes a person socially-awkward by nature, genetics, so obviously it is going to hurt guys more, those that disagree are delusional, have no logic