I am beginning to think that no one will ever TRULY love me.

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There are plenty of statistics out there, none of them are really good news for an aspie.

lol, good answer.

Eh, I ignore statistics. There's a lot of 'statistics' I'm supposed to fit in, but I don't. I don't let the statistics define me. For me, really, dating is all a matter of when/if I'm ready for that next stage in life. I might reach it one day. I might not. Either way, I'm happy with and about myself (for the most part) and I don't let my lack of socialization/dating skills define me as a person or an Aspie. I have other positive attributes to be proud of.

Being positive is not about refusing to see what is bad. It is doing best with what you have.

If your behaviour and way of thinking categorises you as an aspie and you have problem dating like an Aspie it must be due to having AS not those crap that NTS give you. They will toss you around with so many different stories.

Well, I do make the best of what I have. Very well, in fact. It's more than enough for what I need in my life. I honestly don't need love in my life, and I don't need anyone else's love, approval, friendship, etc. If it comes along and happens, then great, but I don't need other people to define my self-worth and abilities. Simply put: both Aspies and NTs, no matter what form of a relationship we're talking about, can either accept me for me or f**k off. I'm all I really need. =\

Statistics are a record of what has happened, not what will happen.

That would be the projection.

Projections are just as unreliable, as they are based on statistics.

33 years old and I only ever had a few pathetic relationships. Compared with many NTs and a few Aspies from what I have seen in these forums, I don’t have much hang-up. I am not clingy, controlling or manipulative. Tell me that is not partly down to statistics.

To be love, I thought one needed noble qualities, I don’t see that in many NT.

-----To be love, I thought one needed noble qualities, I don’t see that in many NT.-----

well my friend, you need to find a good christian woman then. that's my advice.


people. what the Heck is with the stats. who the heck cares? I don't. I don't live life by whether or not I'm statistically going to succede or not. that's like my dreams which freak me out sometimes, because they're always predicting the future, I don't live by them

Thank you for that post, Gamester. You summed up my thoughts in a shorter post than I did.

The statistic tell you how hard or how easy things are going to be.

If you are going to open a bar in Croydon and statistically new bars fail in the third year, you know that your bar has to have something special for it to survive You also have to do your HomeWork and invest lots of Time and Money.

One needs only the appearance of noble qualities, they really don't have to possess them, hence the amount of seemingly unworthy men who are able to get any women they want. All the guys I know who are like that are totally different people around a woman, than when they are just hanging out with their friends. I act the same towards everybody, which may be my problem. Plus, noble qualities aren't everything, I know some women with noble qualities who I am not attracted too. You cannot quantify attraction. The heart decides, not the mind.

Yes, but statistics don't say which bar will fail (which is really the only fact that matters), only that 'x' bars might fail.

Statistics shouldn't matter.

The only time you want statistics is in busines or.....Ugh....math class.


You don't need the statistics to say that you're going to have a chance or not, whether or not you'll make it to college or that junk.

DOES THE WORD COMMON SENSE MEAN ANYTHING?!

Geez.

I'm 19 and I've been in two relationships... Both abyssmal failures. In my first relationship which lasted maybe a month the girl I was dating told me that she had a fiance in another state and had to break it off. Actually she didn't even do that, she had one of my friends tell me... Apperently I was moving too fast, I was trying to act more like an NT for the beginning of the relationship... It backfired bigtime. Apperently I was moving too fast or something, doesn't change the fact she had a fiance and didn't tell me.


In the second one that lasted a year... Well its a long story, but essentially she couldn't accept me for who I am. Not the fact that I have aspergers (although she also had a hard time accepting that) but what I am doing with my life. I'm kind of aimless right now. Don't really know where I'm headed, all I know is the destitute world behind me full of pain and misery.

Your not the only 1