Single ones: What's it gonna take for that someone to come?

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No matter how outgoing I become, I will pretty much need the woman to start off the relationship. I'm simply clueless when it comes to body language and the handful of times when I thought "yes, this is the one" and felt she had all the signs I could not have been rejected any harder. I also tend to assume the worst in people and if an attractive woman were to aggressively pursue me I would be questioning their motives because the few people who were nice to me just did it to find a place to stick the dagger in my back.

I'm so oblivious to flirting it could be spelled out in plain English and I STILL wouldn't catch on. No doubt this would make me come across as stuck up when my intentions were anything but. It just seems by the time women figure guys like me out and how amazing we can be, they are old enough to be my mother.

I would need to make the space in my life. Right now it's not there.

Getting over my lack of courage, I guess that'd be the main thing. That and my inability to read women worth a damn at all. But, I guess it's more opening myself up to the opportunity, but the problem is I don't really believe a girl would like, love me, if that makes sense, and accept me in totality. It probably comes down to self image issues, I guess. The last girl I really fell for, I felt my life wasn't in order enough for me to pursue her, and that I would not affect her positively. It ended up being the wrong decision, but logically it seemed right to me, I just didn't know sometimes feelings, mine and other peoples, actually matter.

But yeah, that's what it'd take. I feel like that "someone" has already came and I just blew it, so... Who knows if a "someone" will come again or not.

You people have a lot of great points here..... I'd say there is hope for us yet.

Balls.

I've tried becoming more socially active by going to specific social clubs that fitted my interests, but since those clubs were highly inactive, I never really got the chance to make close friends (I almost made one that I was quite fond of, but turned out to like jerks instead for some reason). Since I'm really busy now, there's not really much I can do at this point.

Good hygiene, fashionable clothing, a healthy attitude, a steady job, and a lot of disposable income.

bruinsy33 wrote

Personal emotional growth.

It will be the one where I pick up the cues to know I should act accordingly. We will both be attracted to each other, nobody is using the other one. We both will just accept each other as we change through out life. We will have fights, but nothing that will tear us apart as we will both learn and grow from it.

All I need is to wake up and see that person.