Have you ever been judged by your political beliefs?

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It does as it indicates that the person wants their partner to have the same beliefs as them which is intellectually boring. I didn't bring intellectual curiosity into the debate - someone else did when saying they'd prefer to be with another liberal as opposed to a conservative.
Political beliefs are directly linked to intellect as your understanding of the issues will depend on your intellect - I'm using the word intellect as another term for intelligence here.

Personally, I think that political beliefs play a factor, to a point. I mean, my parents are on opposite ends of the spectrum, but they have had a great marriage. In some ways, it depends on the people too - as far as their personalities go, I mean.

It is not boring to want a partner who shares your core values, it's just common sense, and political beliefs are a reflection of those values.



I never said you were the one who brought it up. But you did comment on it. I disagree with your comment. The question of who brought it up is irrelevant.



If, as you say here, political beliefs are indicative of intellect and if, as you said in an earlier post, intellect is important in determining whether or not you like someone, then why did you take issue with someone saying that certain political beliefs are a deal-breaker?

This is making my brain ache - you are evidently too clever for me

I'm not good at keeping track of all these twists and turns, I just know what I relate to in another person and it doesn't depend on their political beliefs.

I would be a fool to say that I wasn't judged by my political views. But these days I don't really care much for political views. I can listen to someone's view, take it for what it is worth, consider it and then apply the human factor to it. But I keep this to myself and I'll let the other person figure it out on their own. People need to make mistakes to understand what will work in the future.

I would go as far as to say they are the best reason, after them being abusive or rude. Much better than appearance, or religion, or tastes in food or music or film or whatever...

Honestly, I could not date someone who was against gay marriage, or abortion, because that would mean they were either stupid or a dick, or probably both.

I wouldn't mind different economic views if they were otherwise suitable, I could accept someone saying the rich should only be taxed 30%, as long as they thought we should retain the benefits system and the NHS at least for the very poorest, for example.

You dont want to date them anyway. Any one who can not look at both sides and see validity of the others opinion, they don't have to agree. This people are closed minded and would drive me nuts to try and date.

Sure, but I think that it's a fair thing to judge somebody on. Political beliefs are an extension of ethical beliefs and if someone holds beliefs contrary to your sense of ethics and morality, it would be hard to be romantically close to them. For friends, I think it's good to have people with different views, but for someone who is supposed to be your partner, I think it's reasonable to want to be on the same page.

Difference is what attracts a lot of the time. If you want a person to be too like yourself you might as well talk to yourself in the mirror. Different views don't necessarily have to be 'wrong' - they can just be different views. I like having debates when views differ - it's interesting.

Theres a local rapper that likes to be as controversial as possible(been in jail for "inciting people to protest" on his songs...).
This guy became famous because while he says some things that are completely out of line some of the things he says make quite a lot of sense and are said bluntly through his songs.

On one of his songs he talks about what people think and how they really act and he brings up this.
"You say you dont care about politics but politics are on every aspect of life. Thats why most of you wont ever date someone who held the same views as Hitler"

Of course its an exaggeration but to some people dating someone that didnt held their political views would be as disgusting as dating someone who had the same views as hitler and anything you do is unlikely to change that so its usually best to find someone more tolerant rather than change their views.

First, I will clarify what I mean by same page. I do not mean, I want someone who is exactly like me. I just mean that I could not accept a position that I could not at least respect. For example, many people believe that it's okay to institute a government that forces people to follow the tenets of their religion or worse, to actually convert. This is a philosophically bankrupt idea, indefensible from logical reasonable purposes. I could never live with someone and see them every day if they believed the like of that.

Second, yes debate is fun, but if you are going to be with someone for a long time, you will eventually get to the point where you are so familiar with your partner's views that you can anticipate what they will say, and debate will become boring. That's why I prefer to save that debate for friends, of which you can have many, with very varied views.

Yes, and been labelled many things for my political views despite many things that would somewhat make those labels ridiculous. Equally, I have been rather harsh on people with some political beliefs. Examples below:

*Because I like Nigel Farrage's work as an MEP in the EU Summit and his policies towards balanced and good trade relationships with every country, I have been ironically and ignorantly branded a racist UKIP supporter. Considering I am a dual national, far right politics would see family members that have done 30+ years of work in this country deported (something I obviously don't want), and that in the past I have been a victim of racist crime and have also defended other victims of racial hatred, this comment from the get go is a very stupid one to make.

*In a roundabout turn, a girl I was seeing turned out to be a rampant BNP supporter. Little did she know of my heritage, or the actual policies of the BNP itself. As the saying goes "know your enemy". I educated her on their many policies that would see people like my mother, my aunt, other distant relatives and maybe myself subject to severe inequality or deportation. I then pointed out the number of party members they have that have been arrested over inciting racial hatred. She fobs most of it off because it is beyond her understanding! So to reason I asked why she votes for them and it was as simple as this "Its to get rid of them stupid p--- and n--- and the whole country will be ok innit. But you're ok you're different." Needless to say, we drew the line there, and I told her to spend some money on a degree on history and study about the history of Great Britain and get a clue. Never spoke to her since.

Trying to ignore my ex-husband's political beliefs led to a relationship that ended in divorce because actually acting on those beliefs led to incompatible lifestyles. I really liked him as a person, but mommyhood was not high on my agenda.

Some people can still enjoy life while being a parent, but not someone who's socially isolated already. It was a recipe for misery for me.

On the other hand, my 2nd husband has nearly exactly the same political beliefs as me, but has some other issues that are killing us.

If political beliefs of the other person do not factor into your relationship great...but why so adamant about convincing everyone else they should seek out intimate relationships with people that have totally opposite view points? I personally would be much more comfortable with someone that shares some of my values/beliefs...rather then someone with a totally opposite view point, I feel that would cause too much conflict. I don't care in general what political beliefs someone has but when it comes to a relationship I prefer someone i can relate to that understands where I am coming from.....that said I am not much into people that constantly obsess about politics regardless of if they are left or right.

Well, you know us conservatives know that liberals are largely irrational beings *holds up sarcasm sign*

Also, I suspect that liberal women prefer liberal men because liberal men let women dominate them. *holds up even bigger sarcasm sign*

Score! Someone with the ability to think bigger than their own opinions can still be compatible.

Hard-liners who DO NOT have the ability to respect another point of view must take the simpler route and find a mate with the same beliefs.

Some differences can also be too large or mutually-exclusive to overlook...