Describe your love life.

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I think my love life only exists in my brain

I love this boy. He moved across the country for me. He thinks the moon rises when I tell it to.

He...is not my soulmate. I lost that person.

I am an a**hole....because this boy....gave up everything for me....but in my soul, I know that if my soulmate called to me, I would crush this boy.

Dead, my routine is goto work and sit in front of the computer if I lose my job, it's just sitting in front of my computer...

the funny thing is I do want to get married, but I don't want to break my routine. this upsets me as this means I'm probably going to be alone for the rest of my life.

Age 20. I think any chances of me having a love life fell in a chasm caused by an Orb of Annihilation.

My lovelife = nil

Haha.

I hold back too much. I think part of it is the fact that even if I do run into women that I have a lot in common with and can talk a good passionate game with them on that common ground I still have that painful sense of awkwardness even if they find it endearing its kinda tough for me to pull through, and the biggest thing I think is my tactile hypersensitivity - 1st and 2nd base is very intense stuff, by 3rd and home I'm hardly feeling that much just because I think my nervous system just hits that overload point - that just sucks because truth be told women are about it and they want a guy who enjoys it, even if that situation ads stamina I hate the fact that I have to be with someone almost 2 or 3 weeks to really start feeling natural and on with initiating physical contact rather than dreading it. On another end though I've really got my hopes up on one thing - there's a girl I'm talking to who's such the spitting image of myself its almost scary, should be real interesting to see how that goes and I'm just hoping I can find the right time or angle to see her outside of work one of these days (and the other funny thing - she's also very likely shadow AS or partially on spectrum herself , as attractive as some of the more prominent girls here, I'm just hoping she's got as much of the same natural dissonance with it as I do so if I say 'lets take it slow' it'll be a huge relief rather than a downer).

*insert hysterical fit of laughter here*

...nope...I'm not even going there.

None atm. I was interested in a much older woman recently, I still sort of am, only in a completely heterosexual way if you understand what I mean. She openly told me she is a lesbian a couple of nights ago, so that was kinda odd. She's a bit AS too. And her children, come to think of it. Good kids though.

And to think I used to 'get it regularly'. Huh, it so isn't worth it unless you're actually in love (and sure of it). I think I got over the whole 'touch hypersensitivity' thing though -- guys, it is possible, I swear of it.

Hmmm.. this is the second post on the subject that has enlightened me..

dealing with a very evil ex girlfriend.

I hear ya. (I'm kinda surprised that tactile hypersensitivity in general doesn't get mentioned more often around here.) Unfortunately the stuff you just mentioned continues to be an issue even when you're married... It's another one of those things where NTs (mine at least) just can't comprehend what we're dealing with and they end up taking our reactions personally instead of understanding what the real problem is. When the physical stuff gets too intense and you need to take things slower or whatever, that can be taken as a personal insult because they can't figure out why you don't "like" it.

And other tactile hypersensitivity (non-sexual) can definitely be a problem in relationships too - another thing that gets taken the wrong way. "She doesn't want to be close to me" etc. In my family there's a "don't touch Amy" rule - I didn't even know about it until my sister said something about it to her boyfriend one day. It would help a lot if people could at least get the concept of firm touch vs light touch - that alone would solve most of the problem, but that's a little too counterintuitive for most people. Natural instinct tells them to be gentle to avoid hurting the other person... for some of us that doesn't work though - the sensation from that gentle touch is more uncomfortable than a touch that's too firm.

Alcohol helps a lot to tone down the hypersensitivity (sexual and non-sexual types) but you can't be drunk all the time... and it's yet another thing that can be a little insulting to other people if you have to be drunk to enjoy physical contact with them.

I wonder what's worse, sitting around thinking "what the hell am I doing wrong? I can't figure out why I can't get the ladies!"

or

looking at a picture of myself and going "oh"



I can't even get far enough with a girl to know if I have hypersensitivity issues.

Dont worry soon you will
and you will get to fell a whole different level of failure and self-doubt

Yeah, I'm just hoping he doesn't get to feel it set in where all those things aside he just can't get into her :/ .

If I had to pick one word to describe my love life, it'd be "trainwreck".

All I've ever had is unrequited love (I'm still caught up in the claws of that unhelpful emotion at the moment, actually. It's a familiar feeling). Nobody has ever openly told me they like me. The only recent indications I've got of that nature have been Valentine's Day cards that were likely sent to me by some unhelpful harpies at work, who seem not to realise that it's more upsetting to me to be played like a fiddle string than to get them from somebody I don't actually like.

Hell, if my affairs of the heart are to be treated like nothing more than a bloody joke, then I might as well not even bother...

slightly on the existant side.