The OKCupid Profile/Photo Improvement Thread

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Yea, all you are to them is a quick ego boost out of tons of messages, gives their life validation but when it actually boils down to taking the first step forward to something more serious they stop responding completely.

Last edited by BigBossMSF on 04 Sep 2012, 5:43 am, edited 1 time in total.

Well, I dunno. If this was IM, the idea is that it's like a real time conversation, so you should respond quickly, especially at the beginning of the convo. She responded to you very quickly, then you didn't respond for another five minutes. She probably moved onto other things (or people) by then, assuming you weren't very committed to the conversation. I think it's important to get it flowing at a good pace for the first few minutes.

You know, a lot of women on dating sites really ARE looking for someone to spend their life with or go on real dates with.
I've had plenty of guys not answer me. There are a lot of reasons why messages don't get responded to and conversations end.
I'm not saying that some women aren't doing what you said (using the site as an ego boost), but really, there's no need to go bashing them all. Maybe more women should be open to meeting people rather than assuming they'll be able to find a person without doing much real-life communication. But, if does work for some people...

nah it was pm i included the times and also mentioned it was 48 hrs before i asked why she nvr replied ;p.
Dating sites are a waste though..the 3 girls I met nvr wanted a date 2...yet they wasted 2 hours of my time acting like they were interested. Literally, all 3 of my dates were 2 hours long lol..sitting talking over coffee. When the girls wouldnt reply to my followup texts I got heated and pestered the asking why they didn't want a second date. All i wanted was feedback. They ignored me and one threatened to kill me via a friend that was male

lmao thts so true

Oh right, well in that case:

a) I often take longer than two days to reply to people. If they bother me for a reply, then I certainly won't!
b) You should give her something to reply to. Ask her questions, about things she has mentioned in her profile.

In regards to the dating part, I go on dates in the hope of meeting someone I can start a relationship with. I assume the person I'm dating is doing the same. Most of the time, I am not interested in a second date. That seems normal to me? Why would I expect that every date would be with the man or woman of my dreams? That's why you date - to find out. It's not a waste of anyone's time. Often, I am having a nice time, so that might come across to the other person that I'm "acting like I'm interested". Really I'm just enjoying the date. It doesn't mean I want another one. There are plenty of great people in the world that are worth spending time with, but whom you don't click with romantically. Such is life. Keep trying.

Last edited by yellowtamarin on 04 Sep 2012, 5:47 am, edited 1 time in total.

Dayum you got used for a meal ticket. That nearly happened to me with a really hot blonde girl who I couldn't understand why she wanted to meet up with me when she outright told me she wasn't interested in sharing anything involving my interests with me. I eventually called it off. Whew.

I always take the girls out for coffee..not gonna buy them meals. The girls werent even all that..one was fat as fuark, the other 2 were not too bad to look at.
First one actually bought her own coffee, and the other 2 got something cheap.
Last one was trying to pressure me into buying her another drink however.
What really annoys me is after the date with the last girl she says ''see you again?'' Then the chick doesn't answer my texts. inally she said a wk later she;s busy LOLrofl

Sounds really lame, well the key is to stop giving a f**k since the rest of the world doesn't as well. At least that's what's worked for me. Sure it sucks being alone but at least you have

A. Your freedom
B. Your money
C. Your pride.

Ignore anything that is said at the end of the date. It often doesn't mean anything. A lot of people find saying goodbye awkward and may accidentally say something like "let's do this again" just because it feels odd to just say "bye". Sometimes my date will ask me at the end if I'd like to catch up again. I don't like this because often I haven't made up my mind yet. It seems rude to say "No" or "I'm not sure", so sometimes I will say "Okay, I'll be in touch soon". Then when I'm in touch it might be to say I'm not interested.

Not replying to texts is a bit rude, but the last guy I said "not interested" to pestered me for the rest of the day with texts wanting more and more information as to why I wouldn't give him another shot. I felt like I had explained it well enough, and it was getting quite annoying. It certainly wasn't going to change my mind, in fact it just makes things worse.

So if she doesn't reply, so be it. Leave it. Nothing you can do. If she's into you, she'll reply (unless she some crazy game player, in which case, do you want to see her again anyway??).

If I experienced sex once I would be able to live alone for the rvst of y life. it's just a goal to get a woman attracted enough to fuark me or atleast kiss me

Post your photo or profile then, and Wolfheart will help you with that!

Eh thats not too hard, it'll happen for you.

my profile is good ive actually posted it all over the internet...Im done with these sites though.It does not behoove my social skills to meet a girl through the internet anyway.

I need help with my profile but want advice from WOMEN who's been successful on dating sites.
Would you give me some advice if I PMed you the link?

Come on step up to the challenge, men, a woman yuzu has done it.