Get TONS OF MESSAGES/INTEREST from women! A Numbers Game..

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I wouldn't mind if a lot didn't look like grandads! I'm only 46 and the idea that these men think I'd be up for it makes me shake my head in wonderment at the male ego! Lol They need to take note - we all want younger looking, not just them!

That's hardly relevant as you are a woman, the ratio of men is far higher and women get tons of random sex or boring messages. Any woman can put a photo up and get a ton of responses, if I put up a photo of an average woman on a dating website tonight, I can guarantee you that it would get a lot of messages. It's a completely different ballgame for men and women, that's what you need to realize.

By the same token you need to realise the messages you get are purely based on how you look and nothing to do with personality so enjoy it while it lasts as when you get older your 'personality' will not be sufficient to attract people. Also I don't think the ratio of men to women is that different, it's just custom for men to approach women first and men often want just sex more than women hence they cast their net wider.

I have an interesting and humorous profile so you are clearly making a misjudgement plus men mature better with age, look at some older male actors. Men are considered attractive well into their older age in their acting career whereas they prefer women to be younger.



I have that written as my self summary.

Lol oh dear....

Commenting in depth on your profile might get me in trouble with the mods

It's cliche city just for starters though

And 'I rock'?? Are you American or something?

And if you think men get better with age you need to see some of the photos I've been sent LOL

A few actors look ok as they get older but generally everyone's looks suffer with age plus most actors end up having plastic surgery and/or botox these days so it isn't even a realistic representation of the ageing process any more.

This thread...it hurts.

Oh i'm sure you'd like to speak your mind but you lack the initiative to do so, the difference is that you are whinging whilst i'm making positive contributions to this forum.

women did talk in the forum, and i used to have 2 profiles so that i could filter out the spam.

i have a couple of questions, Wolfheart.

1. how many of those girls are ones that you would have wanted to contact?
2. are you advocating the use of a spambot?

Nah, it's the personality in large part. To a point, your personality determines how you look. IE, he could have posted pictures of himself in a Mario shirt after having not showered for a week, bad haircut, pasty skin, etc. But because he's self confident (or maybe arrogant, but I can't judge people's hearts and intentions) he changes his appearance and looks nice. If we're using the 1-10 scale, I think most people that are, say, 3 or 4, can easily get themselves to 6-7 unless their face is burnt off or some kind of other tragic thing like that. But, if you're already naturally a 5-7 then you end up a 9-10 by just taking care of yourself. In most cultures, the confidence is what wins the women.

Now as far as longterm relationships. That's on Wolfheart to answer for himself. I know in my case, I'm not horrendous looking (no six pack, though, but pics of me are in members only pics thread,) and various girls have expressed interest in me (though I'm usually quite oblivious to the body language and double meanings to many things like that.) But, I don't feel like anyone would like me longterm. I could probably fairly easily go to a club or bar and "act" and pick up chicks, but I want this fabled thing called love, and I want a girl to like me for how I really am, just not how I could force myself to act for a few hours. But, if I wanted to, I think I'd be pretty good at basically screwing chicks for sport. My religion also kinda wouldn't take kindly to me doing that kinda thing, either, so there's that. If Wolfheart is happy with the arrangement of screwing chicks for sport, I guess good for him, but yeah. I don't want such an arrangement, as appealing as it sounds sometimes, whether or not it makes me "beta" or whatever the hell. However, Wolf, like most people, may eventually just "settle down." Nobody knows.

The point of his post is right, though, numbers game does work.

I wouldn't use the spambot.

I have very little faith in most females because those type of idiotic profiles do attract the majority of them quite well.

He's right, on dating sites, you simply cannot compare your message experience to a man.

i agree you can't compare men and women. women get exponentially more first messages than men. even Woflheart's method is essentially still sending the first message.

though you also can't compare young people to older people on dating sites.

ok - second edit - i was actually reading a graph incorrectly. prospects for both men and women getting messaged on dating sites decline after age 30.

[quote="hyperlexian"][quote="JanuaryMan"][quote="Surfman"]She'll love you for being so inventive[/quote]

Yes, because all these women on PoF talk to each other about all the men that message them. Let's be frank, a woman messaging me could have said the same thing to 50 guys. And vice versa. But how would you tell?[/quote]
women did talk in the forum, and i used to have 2 profiles so that i could filter out the spam.

i have a couple of questions, Wolfheart.

1. how many of those girls are ones that you would have wanted to contact?
2. are you advocating the use of a spambot? [/quote]

1. Plenty of them are attractive girls I wouldn't have come across unless I used this methods.
2. I'm not spamming any one person with several repetitive messages, meet me is a legit feature and there is no stated limit.

are you allowed to use a spambot in the meet me feature?

yes, but out of the "tons" of replies, how many are ones that you would have contacted yourself (estimated)? 1/10? 1/4? 1/2?

You conveniently have a story for everything involving the integrity of women, Lex. I stand corrected! Though, I'd like to think they wouldn't all talk. I wouldn't say the tool is a spambot as such by the way...but a Macro program of any kind has the potential to be used for spam emails or spamming in general. If advertising yourself the same way over and over could be considered spam advertising, then I guess it could be considered spam advocacy!

Worth remembering this method doesn't guarantee success, only results. You have to keep a person's interest and achieve what it is you are looking for in talking to them to count as success IMO. I also have the same questions as Lex for Wolfy. I won't say anything out of line here, but I've noticed a recurring theme, Wolf. I'm happy that you are confident about yourself but you might want to look at the "why is confidence bad?" thread and take some notes.