Getting a girl by NOT looking?

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Well, I doubt so. Some weird guy tried doing that while trying to hit on me by looking away from me a lot( but as in trying to be cool and LOOk disinterested) while tryting to get my number. To me that means he is being rude and dumb. I gave him a fake number. Why would I go out with a guy that won't look me in the eye and show respect? It makes me mad thinking he can try that approach with me. But yeah.

Well, no girlfriend yet but since I stopped obsessing over it I have spent all that energy at the gym. As a result, I lost a ton of weight (33 pounds and counting), gained muscle all over and best of all, women are flirting with me frequently AND I'm not oblivious about it. Still hopeless but not oblivious I must look a lot younger and healthier because a few people told me they thought I was 25 and I even got carded I haven't been carded in almost a decade and I'm over 10 years over the legal drinking age (29)! The clerk almost had his eyes pop out of his eye when he saw my ID. I'll take it as a massive compliment! I've even had young women come up to me and start a conversation and that has almost never happened before.

Bottom line: it's a weird world we live in and being excessively logical (i.e. an Aspie) makes it even harder to grasp. Some one my biggest successes in life only came because of massive failures and some of my biggest failures came from what I thought were successes.

The idea is to not be so outcome orientated, because it causes a nervousness and tension that repels women away. The idea shouldn't be to not interact with women at all, but to not make the point so central to dating when interacting so you're more free to be yourself and have fun and strike up good conversation.

I found my 1st girlfriend when I wasn't looking or wanting a relationship; we were online friends & she told me she liked me. I found my 2nd & current girlfriend by talking about wanting a relationship & asking for advice on how to find someone; I wasn't making post with the dream that a girl would see them & like me. I tried lots of dating sites & tried asking out people I met at work & I never had any luck but bad

I don't know if looking a lot for a girlfriend guarantees you'll find her sooner. And probably your desperation is written all over your face.

Have had absolutely no luck either way. I think for some it's just hopeless.

For me it's hard because of the group I associate myself with. I guess you could call it fate. None of the girls in my group of friends I am interested in Not looking is sometimes the best way to go, as it makes you more relaxed.