17 Oct 2012, 12:48 pm
Thanks.
I didn't know my bf was short before I met him either. On OKC, the height info is off to the side and easy to overlook. As far as ppl not reading profiles, I intentionally ignore a profile of someone who sends me a really good message. I don't want anything on there to ruin a potential connection. I look at it a bit later after I start to like or not like them. People tend to be too picky when looking at person as a list of characteristics. I even notice myself starting to do that, so that is my way of avoiding that.
This should be added to the list of bad ideas about short men, this is even less masculine than "little brother" lol.
I am feeling like a Neo of dating lately, I have "hacked" the Matrix of the female mind (the common things they share like the height complex).
It's not really an issue of lacking masculinity. My bf lacks nothing in that department.
It's just that I am used to hugging my sister more than anyone else. Not too many ppl hug me irl. She is the one that is close to his height. If I was used to hugging a short guy irl, those weird feelings wouldn't be there or at least would be less.
And you know, as soon as a guy hacks the matrix of the female mind, we change something. Watch out for deja vu.
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17 Oct 2012, 2:44 pm
Thanks.
I didn't know my bf was short before I met him either. On OKC, the height info is off to the side and easy to overlook. As far as ppl not reading profiles, I intentionally ignore a profile of someone who sends me a really good message. I don't want anything on there to ruin a potential connection. I look at it a bit later after I start to like or not like them. People tend to be too picky when looking at person as a list of characteristics. I even notice myself starting to do that, so that is my way of avoiding that.
This should be added to the list of bad ideas about short men, this is even less masculine than "little brother" lol.
I am feeling like a Neo of dating lately, I have "hacked" the Matrix of the female mind (the common things they share like the height complex).
It's not really an issue of lacking masculinity. My bf lacks nothing in that department.
It's just that I am used to hugging my sister more than anyone else. Not too many ppl hug me irl. She is the one that is close to his height. If I was used to hugging a short guy irl, those weird feelings wouldn't be there or at least would be less.And you know, as soon as a guy hacks the matrix of the female mind, we change something. Watch out for deja vu.
That's not my point, in my main post I was talking about FIRST impressions.
You already knew him well and had sex with him so you are now sure he's masculine, you're saying that now because you now know it. However, your little sister reference only means this is one of the FIRST ideas you would got if he approached you in real life in the conventional way, hence most probably would totally turn you off.
It's the online communication between you two is what 'hacked' your subconscious prejudgement system and broke your bf's shortness curse.
17 Oct 2012, 6:05 pm
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18 Oct 2012, 4:49 am
That would be ooooone lucky guy! Every hug would be smothering in awesomeness!
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... [head separates from body, allowing mind to wander to wonderful, soft, curvy places...]
... *znerk* eh... whatwho? ... what were we talking about again?
18 Oct 2012, 10:18 am
Boo, my First impressions:
I met short men that were very energetic and had a strong personality. They weren't less masculine than their taller counterparts at all. The most masculine man I ever met was around 165cm. In fact he was too masculine, he needed a bit of relax...
I observe people a lot since I was a little girl, and I know short guys can be really masculine and yes, I have been interested in shorter men, men of my own height (I'm average) and taller men, but I don't have that strong interest or fascination about having a tall boyfriend, I'm not a little girl seeking paternal protection 
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18 Oct 2012, 11:11 am
That would be ooooone lucky guy! Every hug would be smothering in awesomeness!
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... [head separates from body, allowing mind to wander to wonderful, soft, curvy places...]... *znerk* eh... whatwho? ... what were we talking about again?
We were talking about tall women's boobs and short men's heads during hugs, with visual demonstrations. Sorry, you missed out all the fun.
18 Oct 2012, 12:16 pm
I am an NT female who is five feet three inches tall. All my life, I have been drawn toward shorter men. I would guess about 75% of the guys I have had crushes on or dated were 5.6 or under. My ex-husband is 5.5. Oddly enough, being tall (ie over 5.10 imo) is usually a detriment when it comes to me seeing someone was attractive. They have to have a lot of other outstanding qualities to counteract the over-tallness. I guess I want someone I can look in the eye without having to wear heels. 
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18 Oct 2012, 12:55 pm
Those are average height men. Dating shorter men would be someone shorter than you, a in 5'3" and below.
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