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13 Nov 2012, 12:26 pm

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Well I did have a boyfriend from there but he turned out to be on probation for statutory rape, bipolar and would take food off my plate because he believed that women should never eat a full plate of food. Sooooo yeah. I'm never using a dating site ever again. Hopefully with my current bf, I'll never have to.

statutory rape is BS in most cases(no im not supporting pedophilia). Bipolar is bad but so is autism.....which you have.
The food part was f****d up and I thought you were making a joke about Richard from the undateables LOL.

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13 Nov 2012, 12:29 pm

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I'd like to know if you would recommend trying okcupid based on your experiences with it. Not just for dating but to find people in general.

based on your picture i would recommend it for you, and im sure you would have great success within 1 hour(im not kidding you will get flooded with messages as i did when i made fake female profile pages). you are gorgeous(from the myspace angle you provide)

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13 Nov 2012, 12:35 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

Erisad wrote:

statutory rape is BS in most cases(no im not supporting pedophilia). Bipolar is bad but so is autism.....which you have.
The food part was f**** up and I thought you were making a joke about Richard from the undateables LOL.

Noooo that is something he would actually do when we ate at his house but never in public, although he would give me looks and say, "Are you sure you want to eat all that?" Yes, I do. I'm not familiar with the Undateables? Is that a show? O.o

yeah but how many times do I have to hide in a closet because the probation officer showed up before it stops being fun? Once. I was terrified. D:

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13 Nov 2012, 1:20 pm

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Fallowing the tips I've got from here, and updating my profile pic I've had quite alot of success. Met up with a fair few girls irl, It's never gone any where because I haven't been interested. Nothing wrong with the girls, I'm just interested or I'll have a drink, snog and leave.

I won't lie though I love okaycupid for the tests.

Here's my profile is Daithi_Irish

how'd you score NT on tht aspie test?

Because I've worked on and overcome the majority of the Social inabilitys, to the point you wouldn't know I was any different than most other people. I worked on my disability.

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13 Nov 2012, 3:26 pm

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Because I've worked on and overcome the majority of the Social inabilitys, to the point you wouldn't know I was any different than most other people. I worked on my disability.

I took the test last night and got 100/200 for AS and 113/200 for NT. if this was 10 years ago i bet my AS score would have been above 150. so many questions are about how you handle yourself, and not so many about preferences that would define personality types (you cant just stop being an introvert unless you force yourself into something you dont like, but you can learn how to dress and talk in a normalized way)

i tried to look up your profile but had no luck, is there a trick for finding a specified profile? Im on there now for the first time since knowing i have a little AS in me, and would like to see how you built your profile.

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13 Nov 2012, 3:56 pm

ManicDan wrote:

IrishTusk wrote:

Because I've worked on and overcome the majority of the Social inabilitys, to the point you wouldn't know I was any different than most other people. I worked on my disability.

look up his profile where?click his username. I am going to retake the test as i took it a few months back. Im curious how it changed.

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13 Nov 2012, 4:01 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

look up his profile where?click his username.

i was referring to the okcupid profile. doing a search by name got nothing.

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13 Nov 2012, 4:24 pm

I met one person on OKCupid so far and that was last year. It didn't work out because she lived in another town and neither of us could drive.

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13 Nov 2012, 8:26 pm

I do have an OKCupid account, have come close to meeting some women several times, but even though I'm not expecting to find someone through an online dating website, I hope I do find someone whether through an online dating site or not.

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14 Nov 2012, 3:48 am

Ayanami wrote:

I'd like to know if you would recommend trying okcupid based on your experiences with it. Not just for dating but to find people in general.

It really depends, if you have a decent profile and you make yourself look presentable, work out, take good photos, you are much more likely to succeed in online dating. If you want tips, send me messages.

I met my current girlfriend on OkCupid but I had to date about a dozen different women first and some of them wanted to casually mess around and some of them didn't know what they truly wanted. My advice is to be persistent and keep trying with it because you'll likely meet someone but overall you should focus on improving yourself.

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14 Nov 2012, 12:43 pm

ManicDan wrote:

IrishTusk wrote:

i tried to look up your profile but had no luck, is there a trick for finding a specified profile? Im on there now for the first time since knowing i have a little AS in me, and would like to see how you built your profile.

My profile is just bad jokes with a bit of information, But I typicaly always get replies.

[url=http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Daíthí_Irish]Click me![/url]

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14 Nov 2012, 1:01 pm

IrishTusk wrote:

ManicDan wrote:

My profile is just bad jokes with a bit of information, But I typicaly always get replies.

[url=http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Daíthí_Irish]Click me![/url]

wow, nothing but abs. its scary how well that works and how often women complain about it too.

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14 Nov 2012, 1:23 pm

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wow, nothing but abs. its scary how well that works and how often women complain about it too.

Haha, I'd actually take down a few photos and change my profile pic to one of the others. But when I click on photo's it won't show me mine -_-.

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15 Nov 2012, 11:44 am

Dating is tough, no matter what or how you do it. I'm a 38 year old, professional NT woman, who uses mostly traditional sites, but did use one that catered to "geeks" recently. I've had a lot of success in meeting people, but finding someone with whom you work takes time and patience.

Hang in there.

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15 Nov 2012, 1:10 pm

IrishTusk wrote:

Haha, I'd actually take down a few photos and change my profile pic to one of the others. But when I click on photo's it won't show me mine -_-.

"Reaching the top shelf.
Pretending my Newfoundland is a Direwolf."
Ha, I laughed at both of those. I've got the abs but I think, if I made a profile, I'd be sneaky about my physique (avid weightlifter for the last few years), just to see if I could get the dates, and then seal the deal with the body reveal. Dammit that's an annoying sentence, but I can't see how else to write it. My problem is, my long hair...some girls love it, some absolutely hate it. Wait what, who am I kidding, my problem is I suck at conversing with women in person.

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17 Nov 2012, 8:10 pm

Stargazer43 wrote:

I've been having luck with actually getting dates, but I haven't been having any luck after that lol. Really the three most important things in terms of actually getting women to respond and be receptive are your pictures, profile content, and message content. You want pictures that show you in the best light possible, but at the same time you want for them to be realistic representations of yourself, no camera tricks or photoshopping! For profile content, you want to give a sense of your personality, goals in life, hobbies, interests, etc. Show what makes you different from everyone else, and what you have to offer. I like to think of dating as analogous to job hunting: you want to show how you're different and more qualified than the other candidates out there, without coming across as pretentious.

And for message content, typically for a first message I keep it to 3-4 sentences, with one or two questions about something they mentioned in their profile. Typically I'll say something like the following: "Hello, how are you? I just saw your profile, it seems like we have a lot in common! I noticed that you enjoy hiking, I love to hike as well!! Where do you usually go hiking around here? Anyways, I hope to hear back from you!" That's pretty much a basic template that seems to work really well for me.

So that just covers the online side of things...once you actually go on a date I'm afraid I'm not the best person to offer advice, as I've been having similar luck as you. However the same sorts of principles apply...on initial dates keep the conversation to light and noncontroversial topics, make sure to look your best, follow proper manners in all respects (open doors and such). Always meet in a highly public place for safety reasons. And just try to show the best side of yourself!

Excellent advice. My friend has a wonderful description of who he is, what he likes, what he is looking for, what he has to offer. Very well written. His photos are very attractive as well. I myself have one of the most unusual profiles on OKCupid. I conducted an experiment for a friend to prove that high 90% and nearly all interests common do not equal a relationship and 80% range does not necessarily equate a "no good" match. In spite of the fact I made it clear it was an experiment intended for one person, I received many visits and more messages.....well I wasn't expecting messages!! !! Most lookers were less than 70% match, were scary looking in their photos or just not attractive to me.

Hang in there, maybe try other sites as well. Try the advice in the quote. Don't give up.

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