are there true single aspie women

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Uh, I thought it was the topic. If anything, we're derailing this. But I think only one person actually answered the OP's question anyway.




Jealousy and contempt should be called out for what they are, but no one would should be silenced or censured. And one shouldn't always assume a response is jealous or contemptuous without further clarification. That's part of the problem, deeming a response negative/unconstructive/emotionally hurtful based on "social appropritness" instead of actual intent.



I have to point out that none of your scenarios have actually happened in this thread. It's almost like preemptive lockdown you people have put into place, which I find very bothersome in principle. You're determining how things may go, and trying to block a topic from going forward. It's not specific to this thread, any topic that's met with that blocking approach for fear of "social inappropriateness" or for things a cabal of people deem "nonconstructive," seems very un-Aspergic.

After enough time, it is possible to get a good read of who is usually posting here, where are they coming from, and how the content of their posts is usually like. And yes, their intent. I'm aware how some aspie people may say things that sound rude without actually wanting to be rude, just too honest, and I don't hold that against them. But some others just want to complain about how much their lives suck, how better off woman are, and flood threads woman make or participate in with that. It gets old.



Oh, they definitely haven't happened in this thread. You know why? Because they have happened so often before, that many women just don't bother posting in this kind of thread anymore, because they know what kind of non-constructive answers they're bound to get, and see it as a waste of time at best. (at worst, they leave WP). And it's not something that "we people" have as an unspoken rule or anything; it's a personal decision that most people end up reaching on their own. Nobody has ever blocked this topic from going forward. If MXH or Kjas hadn't posted anything, it would sit alone, because nobody would take the OP seriously anyway.

is it possible that some women lie about having a boyfriend. Because no offensive to any ladies here but I am very suspicious if some (read some not all) women on wp, really have a boyfriends. Im not saying that these ladies are lying but at time I kind of wonder if they are telling the truth. But I think it more for a safety reason. I think alot of aspie women don't want to end up with a legit creep (not some dorky shy guy, but a real abuser a**hole type) so they claim they have a boyfriend in order to scare away the ''creeps''. or they just want to post here on wp and not get hit on by any men here so claim they a boyfriend, so no men here will keep pm them and asking them out.

I think it possible that there is alot of ''closet single'' aspie women out there. And no Im not talking about being a closet lesbian.
Im talking about straight aspie women who claim to be in a relationship but are really single. Im not saying that this is true but I do think there is a possiblity that it might be. Because there are alot of real creepy men out there, that would just use and abuse women with asperger and with poor social skills. So maybe alot aspie women will claim to have a boyfriend just to keep the bad men away from them.

The OP in question has made his view on this topic widely known before. Complete with invalidation, denial and various other pyschological tactics, and has previously behaved in an unkind manner to other women in this siutation on the board. That is probably why only one person took it seriously. When people get to know a particular poster, it does affect how you respond to them. Due to his past posts, his question comes accross as ingenuine at best, or at attempt to witch hunt at the worst.

Most of the time, people who start threads like this are trying to start a witch hunt.

They're hard to find I pretty much gave up hope.

I've never in my life met a woman, Aspie or otherwise, who is involuntary celibate (can't get a boyfriend, not because they don't want one)

I've met loads of males (online, mainly. Not in real life) who are Aspie and otherwise, who are involuntary celibate.

Men are often told 'do X and only then you will be worthy of getting a girlfriend'

Uh I have never been mean to anyone women on this board beside meems but that was a argument over how one label themselfs
No. it just crazy on so many ''super shy'' hate going out and doing stuff aspie women can somehow end up with a boyfriend.
I just like to know if there are true single aspie women and of course there are. They are just more quiet about it.

It's a double standard. Women can be as shy and reclusive as they like, and get boyfriends. Whilst it's a major red flag with guys. Not fair

I believe there are ''true'' single aspie women. They are just more ''closet'' about it. I think alot of women will claim to have a boyfriend but they really don't. Of course I being a hyprocrite right now, because I once had a girlfriend. So Im not a ''true'' single man, either. But the true single aspie women are in a minority. The majority aspie women probaly at one time had a boyfriend.

Oh right, so you mean single as in perma single. Never had anyone? I'd say those would be very rare amongst females, even Aspie ones. You're right though, a lot of girls probably claim they have BFs just to ward off undesirable guys.

Posts don't lie. Invalidation and denial at it's best:

Oh,well......................... stay cool

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Another thing is there is alot of women who can't stay in a relationship but Im not counting that type either.
I believe single women just don't go around talking about it like us guys do.