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Kjas
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18 Nov 2012, 4:23 pm

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Silky, it really gives me so much insight in to how you must feel. Really good post. It's really sweet that you both make the effort for each other. Philosophical question: do you think that if you were just 100% yourself with him, without any niceties, and he loved you just the same anyway, do you think the fidgeting and so on would lessen? Just an interesting thought. It does sound like you've found your soul-mate, so congratulations! You sound like you work well together :-)


Honestly - it's incredibly rare that there are people we can stand to be around 24/7 - most of us will never meet someone like that. I have met one in my life before.
It's no reflection on you - it simply is the way we are wired. Aspie things are not magically going to go away just because it's the right person, that doesn't happen. No matter how much we like them, or how comfortable we feel with them - we still need them to leave before we can truly feel that we can completely and totally relax again.

I can never relax when people are around. I can't even relax if there are others in the same house, but not in my room. We need to be completely alone, to "recharge our batteries" as they say.


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18 Nov 2012, 5:05 pm

I'm with Kjas on this one.

Ideally, I would even move to a deserted Island, and only have someone go visit me once a month. :wink:



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18 Nov 2012, 7:18 pm

I would suggest maybe having morning time. Schedual in a day where you can go out for breakfast together. Time together doesn't have to be at night. I would never ever ask my aspie partner to stop his interests because of me and he knows if he tried the same with me it would be over.