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Keniichi
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06 Dec 2012, 1:51 am

ValentineWiggin wrote:
Keniichi wrote:
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frostbite wrote:
If you enjoy it and you feel an urge in your body to go further then it probably means you are not asexual.

Many asexuals get physical enjoyment out of sex, but that's a separate variable from whether they experience sexual attraction.
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If kissing seams gross and unnatural, you are likely asexual.

A good many VERY sexual aspies here find kissing to be gross and unnatural. Kissing can feel good or bad, irrespective of sexual attraction.
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Whenever I kiss someone, I always have the urge to keep going, but I resist it if I don't love the person. That is how I know I am not asexual.

How you know you're not asexual is whether you experience sexual attraction to other people...or not.



Sorry- as an asexual, the conflation of asexuality with lack of interest in the physical act, or repulsion to it, is more than a bit annoying.

Please define "sexual attraction"?


O_o

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_attraction


Thanks I ask because I have had a few crushes on people, but am not attracted to them sexually.


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06 Dec 2012, 3:31 pm

I believe abstinence is virtue. I have no idea whether or not I don't like kissing or anything like it because I have never done it. I never had a girlfriend to try it out with. I always planned on going to an out of state university and divided to try and pursue romance once I got there. Question. Is it normal for an autistic to not have any dating experience by the time they reach 20 because I know it s not normal for neurotypical people.



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06 Dec 2012, 5:19 pm

From personal experience, I was terrified of love. I didn't know what to expect. In my first relationship, I did not like kissing or cuddling in high doses. I eventually found what I could and couldn't deal with. Though, I am still a virgin, and also plan on waiting until marriage. The relationship I am in now, I feel WAY more comfortable kissing and cuddling. I don't feel pressured and it comes naturally. I think it's important to find a person who understands and won't push you into doing things that you cannot tolerate. The person I'm with can relate to my sensory overload issues, so being affectionate isn't as big of an issue as it used to be for me. I am also a Christian, since that's probably relevant.



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08 Dec 2012, 12:13 am

You could be a gay boy bunny and marry a gay guy who's looking to "turn straight." I'm an LGBT activist and don't agree with trying to "turn them straight" against their will because it causes mental problems but if they wanted to, nothing wrong with that (it's like someone who smokes; I don't agree with it but it isn't my body).



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08 Dec 2012, 12:33 am

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10 Dec 2012, 7:46 pm

Before you are going to enter the married life, make sure that you are ready for your responsibilities and changes that might happen.