Lonely and feeling undesired--anyone else, and/or advice?

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29 Dec 2012, 6:36 am

Its whats inside that counts really more than anything else, having good looks is just a bonus, & I think you're fairly good looking.

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29 Dec 2012, 7:38 am

Def. not bad looking
Great hair
Great teeth
Great smile
Great eyes

And I agree with Wolfheart, it is never to early to start with a good cream and keep out of the sun.

If you do not have friends to ask for advice (if you want advice on makeup etc.) then most makeup stores, Bodyshop etc. make these makeup sessions. I have tried it a few times and I think that they wallop to much concealer on my face, but take it as an experience. There are lots of videos on you tube as well. Loads of blogs about fashion and make-up.

Now, I do not want to sound as if fashion and makeup is the most important, it is not! I just prefer to look nice but most of the time (these days) I am not wearing any makeup. Looks is just the first impression, but personality will last.

Having a social circle is probably more important. In your age I was at university and was hanging out in the bar every friday, loads of nice people some of them I still see today

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29 Dec 2012, 8:19 am

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That's not ugly. I was expecting something really bad.

I am that bad and I still get women leering at me. I can't capitalise on it to save my life though.

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29 Dec 2012, 10:52 am

Catharascotia wrote:

This is what I look like:
http://imgur.com/gallery/4CLwo

My face is unfortunately very crooked :/

I think you look great. I see nothing bad, your eyes look pretty and you have a great smile too!

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29 Dec 2012, 2:10 pm

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29 Dec 2012, 2:28 pm

^ Stop, Boo. You are currently getting 15 dates per week and you are walking around with a cane to beat the women who keep throwing themselves at you. You have lost the right to use the "Forever Alone" image. Now pay the forum a fine or serve your sentence. Your stolen image URL is now forfeit.

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29 Dec 2012, 3:44 pm

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What about yourself? How's it going for you, Mr. Shmexy himself?

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29 Dec 2012, 4:07 pm

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What about yourself? How's it going for you, Mr. Shmexy himself?

Mr. Shmexy's womanizing ways finally have taken their toll on him. He just wants to avoid women for a while, even though they keep jumping at him whenever he gets out of his house.

Actually, I finally gave up due to my lack of success. Ever since my latest failed attempt at talking to a girl I used to like, I began to lose interest in women, although my interest varies according to my mood.

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29 Dec 2012, 4:08 pm

Catharascotia wrote:

I'm a 21 year old girl, and I've never had a boyfriend. I've only ever had one guy who asked me out, asked for my number, anything, and he lost interest after only one date. Other than that, I've never had a guy even approach me or flirt with me or ANYTHING.

I'm very plain looking and a bit heavyset. The AS doesn't help--most people don't even want to be friends with me, never mind pursue a romantic relationship with me, and every time I try to talk to guys they're clearly looking to get out of the conversation and probably talk to someone prettier and more socially competent :/ I'm extremely shy and sort of boring, so I don't know if I can make up for looks with personality, especially having AS, which to most NTs just means "really weird".

It's becoming very depressing to hear about other girls my age, who sigh about how stressful it is to have to turn down multiple guys. And it gets very lonely to see couples together and feel that I can never have that.

I know this sounds very mopey-teenage-girl, but it's something that's been on my mind a lot lately.

your still young. so give it time, it may happen. but this what is so crazy about aspie women. there are aspie women like yourself that no man ever approach or want to do things with. But there are alot of aspie women that just have men on them like glue. aspie women who are the same age and already had at least 3 boyfriends. so I have no idea why no men like you.
If I knew you, I would hang out with you. You seem cool. Good luck.

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29 Dec 2012, 5:23 pm

Go to a gym, or do some sport that you like, get the endorphins going. You'll attract guys
Positive people seem to attract other like magnets

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29 Dec 2012, 6:13 pm

Magnus_Rex wrote:

But I am still ....alone.

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29 Dec 2012, 7:02 pm

Wolfheart wrote:

You look fine naturally, however there are some things you can do to improve your appearance.

I don't know if it's possible but see a dermatologist and ask for a skin resurfacing cream, tell them that you would like more glow to your face.

You have nice features but it seems you aren't keeping them moisturised or hydrated, drink more water, speak to a dermatologist about treating the redness and dryness on your face and you'll look and feel a lot better.

Stay out of the sun as well as it can be very drying as this can be ageing if you have dry skin type.

This was a very good tip! I actually went to Macy's today to talk about makeup that will help my skin and make it look smoother. The woman was very nice and gave some stuff that looks really nice. I will also start using the moisturizing stuff that the dermatologist gave me, I'm lazy lol.

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29 Dec 2012, 7:23 pm

Catharascotia wrote:

This is what I look like:
http://imgur.com/gallery/4CLwo

My face is unfortunately very crooked :/

Put other shots if possible, one shot is never reliable to judge.

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29 Dec 2012, 8:01 pm

You're not bad looking, but that smile pulls your face to the left somewhat.

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29 Dec 2012, 8:04 pm

Tequila wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

That's not ugly. I was expecting something really bad.

I am that bad and I still get women leering at me. I can't capitalise on it to save my life though.

You're a guy, though. I know many members don't agree with me here, but girls are more forgiving of the way a potential partner physically looks than guys do. However, when it comes to presentation, guys tend to be more forgiving so long as the girl is physically appealing.

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29 Dec 2012, 8:28 pm

MCalavera wrote:

Tequila wrote:

MCalavera wrote:

That's not ugly. I was expecting something really bad.

I am that bad and I still get women leering at me. I can't capitalise on it to save my life though.

I absolutely agree with you. Look at the movies: there are lots of movies about genuinely unattractive guys getting hot girls, but when an ugly girl gets a hot guy, it always requires a makeover and the revelation that the girl wasn't actually ugly. Looking good is an indispensable requirement for female media figures, such as news anchor, politicians, etc., but it's not such a huge requirement for men. From what I've seen, appearance is the number one factor for guys judging girls, with personality as a pretty distant second. Whereas girls value personality a lot more and will even sacrifice looks if the guy has a great personality.

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