Paperhouse wrote:
Also, she still picks up the phone occasionally and sends email replies, but it's harder for her right now. Sometimes I wonder if she would prefer to keep the relationship at a lower priority than other focuses; either way, there's a problem and I'll have to let her know of it without being too rude.
I agree. It sounds as if she is not being considerate of your needs or how much work you're putting in the relationship, whether she notices it or not.
The way you brought these problems up here was very good. My NT boyfriend is very good at explaining things to me when I am oblivious to hurting him. He is very understanding of my point of view but at the same time explains how I'm hurting him, just like you were. It's best to be direct because if she truly does have AS (and is anything like me), she probably won't pick up on the social cues that her behaviour is hurting you. She also may not understand the meaning behind hints or allusions very well.
04 Jan 2013, 1:05 am
