01 Jan 2013, 3:38 pm
01 Jan 2013, 4:13 pm
Kezzstar wrote:
Unfortunately I follow specific teams and they always play at the same places. I'm not going to punish my teams by withdrawing my support because of these guys. And even if I do move sections, there's usually new blokes who want to cause trouble.
Am guessing here its an bit of issue while your trying to watch your teams play. If you got a season ticket for your home grounds ask for a change of seat in a "family friendly" section of the grounds, if you can. If you can't, then don't got alone to the game. I already hope that you go with your mates now.
Just do you best to see your teams play. Now if a guy tries it again just say this to them
"OI, am watching the game here, now f**k off!!"
That line worked for me, a former Liverpool season ticket holder (Kop end for 15 years
) with dealing with idiots at sporting events.
You go to the games to follow and watch your teams play not to be chatted up, as a last resort if there are a few regular guys that do this and don't stop when you ask them a number of times, it might be best to report there behavior the staff at the stadium.
As they spoiling you enjoyment the matach your at.
01 Jan 2013, 4:38 pm
hyperlexian wrote:
it's like having a cloud of tear gas around me.
Great, if you just want to be ignored altogether. As you're already in a relationship and probably aren't keen on talking to people, that probably suits you quite well.
01 Jan 2013, 4:46 pm
Bunders wrote:
Wear a ring on whatever finger would indicate that you are married?
Wear another on your middle finger in case that fails?
B.
Wear another on your middle finger in case that fails?
B.
LOL, that never works.
01 Jan 2013, 5:10 pm
01 Jan 2013, 7:22 pm
Tim_Tex wrote:
Kezzstar wrote:
The only downside to the "ring on finger" trick is what if my crush sees? But I think I can get around that.
Thank you everyone! Sometimes it IS just nice to talk about ones problems.
Thank you everyone! Sometimes it IS just nice to talk about ones problems.
Would explaining to your crush about the ring work?
It's...complicated lol.
When I first met him I had no desire for a relationship (they were Evil!) and I tried to make it as clear as possible that I wasn't interested. He was pretty cool with that, but I'm pretty sure he's still interested and now I'm interested and it's all very interesting!
01 Jan 2013, 10:55 pm
Kezzstar wrote:
I'm a 24 year old woman who is mildy attractive and loves Aussie Rules Football and Cricket (I'm often seen at games by myself) and I wish guys would just leave me alone! I am already very much interested in someone, and if I can't have them I'm more than happy to be single for the rest of my life.
It wouldn't be so bad if these guys just wanted to be friends (and there are a few of them who I am now friends with
) but the vast majority get very upset when I turn them down (I try to be as polite as possible) and one has even started making snide remarks at me online 
. Why does every bloke seem to have this idea in their head that I HAVE to "give them a chance"?
Anyone else have this issue?
I wish I had this issue It wouldn't be so bad if these guys just wanted to be friends (and there are a few of them who I am now friends with
) but the vast majority get very upset when I turn them down (I try to be as polite as possible) and one has even started making snide remarks at me online . Why does every bloke seem to have this idea in their head that I HAVE to "give them a chance"? Anyone else have this issue?
02 Jan 2013, 12:22 am
bruinsy33 wrote:
Kezzstar wrote:
I'm a 24 year old woman who is mildy attractive and loves Aussie Rules Football and Cricket (I'm often seen at games by myself) and I wish guys would just leave me alone! I am already very much interested in someone, and if I can't have them I'm more than happy to be single for the rest of my life.
It wouldn't be so bad if these guys just wanted to be friends (and there are a few of them who I am now friends with) but the vast majority get very upset when I turn them down (I try to be as polite as possible) and one has even started making snide remarks at me online . Why does every bloke seem to have this idea in their head that I HAVE to "give them a chance"?
Anyone else have this issue?
I wish I had this issue It wouldn't be so bad if these guys just wanted to be friends (and there are a few of them who I am now friends with
) but the vast majority get very upset when I turn them down (I try to be as polite as possible) and one has even started making snide remarks at me online . Why does every bloke seem to have this idea in their head that I HAVE to "give them a chance"? Anyone else have this issue?
People repeatedly interrupting you as you're enjoying your obsession?
02 Jan 2013, 5:38 am
Kezzstar wrote:
People repeatedly interrupting you as you're enjoying your obsession?
Way better than the reverse, sweetie! You give a person the choice between never being hit on, and getting hit on all the time, and you're almost always going to see the second option picked.
So take solace! It could be way worse! Positive reframing and all that.
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02 Jan 2013, 9:46 am
Kezzstar wrote:
I'm a 24 year old woman who is mildy attractive and loves Aussie Rules Football and Cricket (I'm often seen at games by myself) and I wish guys would just leave me alone! I am already very much interested in someone, and if I can't have them I'm more than happy to be single for the rest of my life.
It wouldn't be so bad if these guys just wanted to be friends (and there are a few of them who I am now friends with) but the vast majority get very upset when I turn them down (I try to be as polite as possible) and one has even started making snide remarks at me online . Why does every bloke seem to have this idea in their head that I HAVE to "give them a chance"?
Anyone else have this issue?
It wouldn't be so bad if these guys just wanted to be friends (and there are a few of them who I am now friends with
) but the vast majority get very upset when I turn them down (I try to be as polite as possible) and one has even started making snide remarks at me online . Why does every bloke seem to have this idea in their head that I HAVE to "give them a chance"? Anyone else have this issue?
When you get old you're gonna miss those days.
02 Jan 2013, 10:20 am
Shau wrote:
Kezzstar wrote:
People repeatedly interrupting you as you're enjoying your obsession?
Way better than the reverse, sweetie! You give a person the choice between never being hit on, and getting hit on all the time, and you're almost always going to see the second option picked.
Being "hit on" is flattering, but can also be annoying and upsetting, particularly if you do not return the romantic interest and just wish the person would leave you alone.
02 Jan 2013, 11:09 am
03 Jan 2013, 8:05 am
meems wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
i have found that when i use "over-the-top-masculine" plus "confident" body language, men leave me alone.
-lean back slouchily, arm draped across the seat next to me
-legs apart like i have giant balls (have to wear comfy trousers)
-chin up high, then if i look at people i am looking slightly down at them
-wide stance, feet apart, hands on hips
-big gestures, loud laughter
-cursing/swearing
it's like having a cloud of tear gas around me.
-lean back slouchily, arm draped across the seat next to me
-legs apart like i have giant balls (have to wear comfy trousers)
-chin up high, then if i look at people i am looking slightly down at them
-wide stance, feet apart, hands on hips
-big gestures, loud laughter
-cursing/swearing
it's like having a cloud of tear gas around me.
When I read this I thought "She's so hip-hop." which is definitely a compliment.
I guess I can relate to the OP's issue. It's hard because I have always been alone (ie a "loner", though it feels normal to me!) so I guess maybe that makes me vulnerable, and never in tune with social norms. But more to the point, I wouldn't believe I would have to not wear makeup, not go where I want to go, not wear what I want to wear - why should I?!?!
It makes me mad that people would suggest that. I understand the logic and I have used it at times, but what I really like was the suggestion of acting gruff. That's what I've used most and it has worked the most. Basically using a loud voice gives a 'f*** off' message. Well, not in an aggressive way.. maybe it's a "do not approach" message.
Yet, what I'd really like is someone like the replier, who thought it was cool
Peace out
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03 Jan 2013, 9:05 am
hyperlexian wrote:
i have found that when i use "over-the-top-masculine" plus "confident" body language, men leave me alone.
-lean back slouchily, arm draped across the seat next to me
-legs apart like i have giant balls (have to wear comfy trousers)
-chin up high, then if i look at people i am looking slightly down at them
-wide stance, feet apart, hands on hips
-big gestures, loud laughter
-cursing/swearing
it's like having a cloud of tear gas around me.
-lean back slouchily, arm draped across the seat next to me
-legs apart like i have giant balls (have to wear comfy trousers)
-chin up high, then if i look at people i am looking slightly down at them
-wide stance, feet apart, hands on hips
-big gestures, loud laughter
-cursing/swearing
it's like having a cloud of tear gas around me.
For some reason when I imagine you doing all this it comes off as endearing.
03 Jan 2013, 9:14 am
DialAForAwesome wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
i have found that when i use "over-the-top-masculine" plus "confident" body language, men leave me alone.
-lean back slouchily, arm draped across the seat next to me
-legs apart like i have giant balls (have to wear comfy trousers)
-chin up high, then if i look at people i am looking slightly down at them
-wide stance, feet apart, hands on hips
-big gestures, loud laughter
-cursing/swearing
it's like having a cloud of tear gas around me.
-lean back slouchily, arm draped across the seat next to me
-legs apart like i have giant balls (have to wear comfy trousers)
-chin up high, then if i look at people i am looking slightly down at them
-wide stance, feet apart, hands on hips
-big gestures, loud laughter
-cursing/swearing
it's like having a cloud of tear gas around me.
For some reason when I imagine you doing all this it comes off as endearing.
heyyyyyy wasssuuuuuuup?
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Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,189
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03 Jan 2013, 9:25 am
HEEEEEYYYYYY WASSUP SWEET THANG?!?!??!?!
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