Was this flirting?

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I'd agree with Alex, but here's another point: in your original post you didn't mention these things. It may have been simply forgetting, or you deemed it irrelevant.

But in your own mind, think if you omitted those details because of some kind of fear - that you didn't admit her "closeness", perhaps even to yourself. I can well imagine myself behaving the same way...

So, again: ask her out (of course I can't guarantee results)

There is nothing here to base that upon. Maybe she wants to be friends but there is nothing here to say that she wants to be romantically involved (i.e. is flirting).

If she meant this to just be nice to someone she recognised from school and then you acted as if she'd been flirting, she might react with surprise or even in a negative way (depending upon how strongly you 'came on' to her). So it's best assumed, if assumptions must be made, that she is not flirting with you.

Also, I've had people give me discounts before at the mall simply because they thought I was a mall employee. It's a really nearby mall and especially if the time of year when a lot of my family has birthdays I am there often enough to be recognisable I guess. So she may have either thought you were a mall employee (they get discounts in the food court) or just wanted to do someone she recognised from school a favor.

People sometimes do that type of thing just to be nice or to perk up someone else's day.

Is it possible to tell if someone you talk to over the internet is flirting with you?

My two cents:

When trying to start a relationship, it is NOT wise to go directly from point A to point Z without going through steps B, C, D, E, and so on. Asking this girl out is a huge jump from knowing her from physics.

So, I wouldn't ask her out without establishing a friendship first. But that's my perspective - I have no idea what girls expect.

Of course, I note in your response, "We're ALWAYS lab partners." Are the two of you assigned to work with each other or do you choose to be partners? If so, then was it your decision or her decision to work together?

I am only reminded of the girl I worked with a lot in ninth grade Earth Science. Although I recall there being flirting involved, I think she only worked with me because I was far smarter than her.

I am gravitating towards the discount was only a symbol of respect after reading the argument posted on the last page:

Which, I agree, is a very good thing and represents a giant step socially.

-aaron