Thanks everyone for responding.
I suppose I've felt insulted for awhile now because it was out-of-the-blue. They haven't inquired much directly to me, and at the time had spent almost no time getting to know me. There was no inquiry into what I do for work, how much I make. It was news to them (after the fact) that I pay $600/month into the house, $75 power, $200 for food, $50 water and several other monthly odds/ends. So I don't really know what to think about their passing judgments on my character or intentions. They made me feel like a leech or layabout in the context of their asking, which is exactly one of the things I'm particularly touchy about.
It's taken a tremendous effort to be self-sustaining. To think that I'm seen as "not good enough" or untrustworthy at face value really hurt quite a bit.
The fact is that had my fiance chosen to marry her last ex, there would have been no such request, because he was far wealthier than she.
So it's hard not to take that personally. The family seems overly concerned with money. It threw me off because they're so supportive and detailed about every other wedding tradition - except for the "money" part, it seems. Then tradition gets thrown out the window.
Oh well. I don't know how much longer I'll be annoyed with them. I just don't like being held totally responsible for how I feel about it.
08 Jan 2013, 1:50 am
