good stuff about shy guys

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There's nothing wrong with being shy. Sure you have people trying to make it sound bad by calling it "insecurity", but they are stuck in a narrow minded way of thinking. It's certainly been alright for females to be shy, so why not males? Those who are truly insecure won't give a **** about being shy; they'll seek validation wherever they can get it from.

I find shyness/introversion attractive in certain guys as I don't like feeling overwhelmed by men (or people in general for that matter). People who are too extroverted are also more likely to overstep my boundaries.

What ISN'T attractive to me, and probably to any person with an iota of self worth, is when a guy talks about women as if we were a uniform group comprised entirely of lying, manipulative b*****s whose only purpose in life is to make his existence miserable by dating aggressive 'alpha males' instead of him. It's not just demeaning, it's factually inaccurate and a sweeping generalisation that you absolutely cannot extend to hundreds of millions of people on the planet.

I never knew any shy guys. They just didn't seem to exist here.

Hmm I don't have negative things to say about shy guys, I like shyness. Your positives, however, are not positives to me!

I think it's easy to stereotype "shy guys". I will say that it seems like the one I know is extremely shy to the point he sweats and shakes when attention is paid to him by me. He can easily talk about his work, but find the socializing part more difficult (stutters and fumbles through conversations about anything other than work). I know that he has never dated someone and that he desires a family. He doesn't respond to texts very often (even from his boss). He seems like he takes the time to think before he speaks and he is very kind. No he is not an "alpha", yet I respect him and find him attractive to the point that I would love to get to know him more in the way of dating. I don't feel sorry for him and if anything, I think he does just fine as anyone else we work with. I see his personality and that is what I am attracted to. He is a very good and genuine person - something that I place a much higher value on than "alpha" males. I've dated "alpha" males and they seemed to have no depth and seemed to care for themselves and what I looked like. I care how I look, yet I don't place such a huge emphasis on it that it outshines all of my other qualities. I care about my appearance, but I let myself enjoy life at the same time as much as I can. I chased after these alpha's when I was a younger girl, but my preferences have evolved to desire a man who has all the characteristics of the shy man I described above. I desire him not because I have no self esteem, it's because I think he is so strong in so many other areas. As I said, every shy guy is not necessarily alike and some may be jerks in their own way. I just want to let people know that there are cases where overlooking a shy man may be a loss that was worth exploring. In my case, I just enjoy our small talk and I will see where this goes. I know he is worth knowing.

I don't see much good in shyness alone. Its mainly just a attribute. Like the color of a car. You couldn't come up with much of a list of reasons why green cars are good.

I think you are reading into it and ascribing other qualities to it, that may not be there at all.

why can't more chicks see that we're better than obnoxious extroverts
probably because most of them are that themselves haha

I don't know if this is relevant to the conversation but I had to say it.
I love shy guys!! !! They are so cute and sexy