Made peace with my breasts - and my boyfriend! :D

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14 Feb 2013, 12:09 pm

@Emo great news :) it sounds like you've resolved a lot of problems you were facing.

@Wolf why did you use a stretching effect on the top of your image? It looks strange.



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14 Feb 2013, 12:12 pm

Here's hoping your new mindset is a permanent one! :thumright:

* I fear an overnight total flip-flop of something so traumatic is a little... odd.



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14 Feb 2013, 12:27 pm

I realized that he wouldn't have any reason to lie - I trust him and he said they were perfect long before he knew I had any problems with them. Plus a bunch of messages from guys on MeetMe saying otherwise after I posted how "all men want good boobs, not mine, I look like I'm 12" helped some too. They don't have any reason to lie either - they don't know me, and they know I'm taken so they aren't trying to get in my pants.


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14 Feb 2013, 1:17 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:
@Emo great news :) it sounds like you've resolved a lot of problems you were facing.

@Wolf why did you use a stretching effect on the top of your image? It looks strange.


That was taken from my webcam and It's not stretched at all otherwise the tattoo would look distorted, that's just how they are at the moment. My body isn't in perfect proportion due to use of steroids. Sort of like the effects Synthol have on a person.

If you have naturally skinny wrists and forearms like me, they just kind of stay like that, it's not like you can do much about proportion when the biceps grow bigger but I've realized I have isolated certain body parts and sure, I'm working on compounds to even out that proportion now. My biceps still look very muscular and defined so you can see it isn't all water retention and the muscle I have gained is through hard work, the fact that I'm naturally an ectomorph just shows how far I have come from 130lbs to 220lbs.

Here's a good example of Steroid use and water retention at the most extreme.
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Even if I flex like this, my forearms and wrists still look small in comparison always look small when there is a lot of growth in an ectomorph. There's not a lot I can do about that to be honest but I am working on compound and forearm exercises to even out the proportion.



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14 Feb 2013, 1:30 pm

Not much I can do about it to be honest, If I took two photos of my biceps and one of my forearms and wrists, you'd be shocked. It looks better if you view the proper images of me on Facebook in my URL link but I will be taking some measurement photos after the gym tomorrow.

As for measurements, My wrists are 7", my forearms are "13 and my biceps peak to 18" after a good workout but they are 17" cold. There's not much I can do about that really because of my ectomorphic build. Sure, I would love to get 15" inch forearms but I'll need to get to about 20" biceps cold before that. I don't consider 18" to be big by any means, they look defined and I suppose they look big to the average person but at 220lbs, I feel like I have a way to go before I get 21" inch biceps and there are even guys with 25" inch biceps.

Let's face it, I got my biceps the quick way by using steroids and focusing on getting them bigger with my traps and back but I learned from that now and I'm focusing on compounds and exercises which pack on overall mass, my goal by summer is to be 240-250lbs.



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14 Feb 2013, 1:44 pm

Let's stay on topic, I don't want this thread closed.

Anyway, I feel a lot better after last night because I realized a lot of things. I admitted an odd fetish last night and to be honest, if he wasn't creeped out by that, he truly loves me. :)


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14 Feb 2013, 2:54 pm

EmoGlambertAspie wrote:
My boyfriend visited earlier and I gladly let him massage my chest. We even watched The Tudors, which had a scene with a naked woman having sex with the king, together and I felt fine, even commenting that she was pretty. I told him that I like my boobs how they are as long as he does. He smiled and said, "They're perfect. And they aren't as small as you think either. They aren't As." After he said he had always liked smaller boobs in porn anyway I said, "I'm glad you like smaller ones. Now I know if you see a woman with bigger ones you won't lust after her and if you see one with small ones, well, maybe she'll remind you of me?" He said, "Exactly!" And even if she didn't, somehow it isn't as threatening as it would be if he wanted bigger ones - at least he's not lusting over something I can't give him. We talked about how smaller chests are more sensitive and that surgery stretches the areola, and I decided out loud "Know what [boyfriend]? If I need that for a dress or something, that's what the rubber push up pads at Walmart are for." I was in a really happy mood and still am. I changed my mind about those too - it isn't false advertising if it isn't advertising at all and I'm doing it for myself! :) I thanked him for being so supportive of me and apologized for not believing him. He said, "It's okay, you needed it. And everyone has bad confidence sometimes."

Tl;dr: I talked to my boyfriend and it made me feel 1000x better, plus I made up with him for my craziness these past few weeks.


Are you a real person?!?



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14 Feb 2013, 3:02 pm

Indeed :)


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14 Feb 2013, 6:31 pm

Why are posting on MeetMe when you have a boyfriend? Is that how you found your BF?



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15 Feb 2013, 12:10 am

MCalavera wrote:
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I do feel better about myself now. As I said, I'm tired of feeling like sh** just because society tells me I should.


Society doesn't tell you that. You're placing the blame on an entity external to your being. You are the one who keeps telling herself she should.


Exactly. She sounds hella paranoia.



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15 Feb 2013, 12:53 am

Cafeaulait wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
EmoGlambertAspie wrote:
I do feel better about myself now. As I said, I'm tired of feeling like sh** just because society tells me I should.


Society doesn't tell you that. You're placing the blame on an entity external to your being. You are the one who keeps telling herself she should.


Exactly. She sounds hella paranoia.


Which is why this miraculous 180-degree sudden turn comes as quite a shocking surprise. All of a sudden, out of the blue, now her self-hate has become self-love?

Well, ever the optimist - here's hoping! [crossing fingers]

I worry for you... you shouldn't feel so negative about yourself - it's really unhealthy and I've known people this problem has ruined, including my own mother.



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15 Feb 2013, 1:30 am

we criticize her when she says she's unhappy with herself, now we criticize her when she says she's become comfortable with herself? :?

I'm not jumping on this bandwagon.

Girlie, I'm GLAD to hear that you're feeling better about yourself and in your relationship. Those doubts and insecurities will probably rear their heads again, but each time they do you will be better at dealing with them. I am proud of you for taking on such a big personal change.


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15 Feb 2013, 1:57 am

Wolfheart wrote:
JanuaryMan wrote:
@Emo great news :) it sounds like you've resolved a lot of problems you were facing.

@Wolf why did you use a stretching effect on the top of your image? It looks strange.


That was taken from my webcam and It's not stretched at all otherwise the tattoo would look distorted, that's just how they are at the moment. My body isn't in perfect proportion due to use of steroids. Sort of like the effects Synthol have on a person.

If you have naturally skinny wrists and forearms like me, they just kind of stay like that, it's not like you can do much about proportion when the biceps grow bigger but I've realized I have isolated certain body parts and sure, I'm working on compounds to even out that proportion now. My biceps still look very muscular and defined so you can see it isn't all water retention and the muscle I have gained is through hard work, the fact that I'm naturally an ectomorph just shows how far I have come from 130lbs to 220lbs.

Here's a good example of Steroid use and water retention at the most extreme.
Image

Even if I flex like this, my forearms and wrists still look small in comparison always look small when there is a lot of growth in an ectomorph. There's not a lot I can do about that to be honest but I am working on compound and forearm exercises to even out the proportion.


Freaky :?



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16 Feb 2013, 1:13 am

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Why are posting on MeetMe when you have a boyfriend? Is that how you found your BF?


I use it to vent, basically. It's a way to vent my thoughts without friends of mine seeing them.


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