any women desperately want to get hit on but never do?

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Hurm sorry I guess I don't understand.. I'm used to going into bars and never even getting a second glance by women.... so I guess it's just something I have trouble figuring out.

Gosh it's hard to say... could be anything from facial expression to posture... if there's nothing physically-odd about you, it's probably a very-hard-to-describe "presence" that so many of us have similar problems with.

I'm surprised no one has asked -- have you posted any pictures of yourself here on WP? Sometimes that can answer more than any speculation could... though it can mean opening yourself up to a certain amount of criticism, like a few members who delighted in calling me fat. (I have a little pudge but I don't think I'm all that bad!)

No, I'm uncomfortable being hit on.

Show us your picture.

People used to tell me that I "try too hard," though they could never elaborate on what exactly that means. Could be something here, honestly. And if you look obviously like your goal is to pick someone up... well, I just can't imagine that being a factor.

There has to be some sort of social situation missing here. You ever said or done anything among your group of friends that makes you unpopular at that bar? Maybe try another bar? If you always go with friends, that can send a signal to most people that you're not there to be picked up.

Where are you trying to meet people?

A club setting has nothing to do with how people act on a class and both have nothing to do with how people would act over coffee/drinks for example.

You have to find a setting where whatever your attributes are they set you away from most people. Sorry but I doubt you are a perfect dancer because most people try to see themselves in similar ways and if I went by what people said the average dancer is just a myth that doesnt exist. They are either a perfect dancer that makes everyone jealous of your skills or you suck.


My interactions with women have improved a lot lately(I even got a number and a date on 5 minutes the past tuesday but Im not going to act on it for personal reasons).
Have I been staying at the gym daily working hard on improving my body figure?
Not really, as a matter of fact I cancelled gym membership because I was barely using it for 2 months.

Have I signed up for dance lessons with a well known teacher?
Not really. Im fully aware I dont have what it takes to shine through dancing and I avoid the club scene(havent set a foot in a club in years)

What changed?

I stopped trying to do what everyone did and I focused on things that I actually liked doing.
This girl that gave me her number had heard from several people within 10 minutes that I was brilliant at what I did and as it turned out she wasnt too bad and she wanted to start meetting someone she could practice with.
We were meeting over coffee in a table filled with over 30 people and most conversations where made in groups of four so I didnt have to do any one in one(I suck at this sort of thing and when I started I brought a good friend along so that hed never leave my sight, he didnt have the knowledge but he wasnt scared of making conversation which avoided any awkward silences)

I guess I sometimes feel a desire for it to happen, especially when I'm out somewhere. But I'd probably find it awkward and annoying (I always feel the urge to excuse myself when interacting with strangers, even if I'm willingly open for it)

I never recognized when I was being hit on for the longest time. I just thought people were being friendly . If it was blatant enough, I used to panic but now I just smile and ignore it.

oh PLEASE let this be about the girl that gets no attention, not the girl that has to beat them off with a stick and has enough ungratefulness to come in here and be like ooooh it's sooooo creepy when guys hit on me OMG i hear that enough from girls in real life. there are tons of threads here on girls that are ungrateful for the attention they get where that can be discussed.

ick, sry the ungratefulness is EVERYWHERE, ALL GIRLS TALK ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME. like, sry, how about you give me your face then if its so f** annoying. yuck.

nobody is ever friendly to me, guys that do talk to me are rude to me, even if i show interest, so thats OBVIOUSLY nowhere near it.

B3dsage how about you hit on girls that actually need attention for a change :D ive seen clueless guys get rejected time after time and none of them ever come to me even tho i look at them.

spongy, i'm not a guy pay f'** attention nobody gives a *** if im good at something blah blah blah. its face body looks etc. and obvi my workouts dont matter for *** if chubby girls are whats hot or whatever but unlike you i dont work out to get laid.

ive gone everywhere, with friends AND ALONE. no difference. just alone im bored and dont get to dance.

Show me your photo, I'm curious to know what you look like, bluerose and I promise you I'm not going to judge you. In fact it seems like people could be more sensitive, kind and caring towards you but people are shallow, I hope you will meet someone that values you for you are eventually.

As for the workout thing, if a girl has a good squat butt, thighs and hips, they will definitely catch my eye.