Not beleiving in the concept of soul mates, destiny, etc

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But how would you know that you'd be together for life? You can't.

no that's true, I can't "Know" that. But I can simply not question it.

if I'm with some one I go into it with the same mindset regardless.. but going into it with the mindset that 'This may only be temporary' is a good way if not to make it be temporary.. certainly cause problems.

I'm not telling anyone else they have to believe this way... but for me.. it is comforting.. and that's the whole point.


I'd rather have an incorrect belief and be happy, than be right and be miserable.

While I don't believe in the idea that there is a perfect person for everyone, I think that most people have a chance to find a good match.
The problem is that few people listen to their instincts enough. If you pay attention, your body will tell you if you need to eat fruit or meat. And the same holds true for love.
Yet most people are eating what tastes good or following the latest diet craze and focusing on superficiality instead of properly paying attention.
I listen to my instincts and I have yet to find a case where acting otherwise would have been beneficial. It can even apply to people. I may not understand the motives behind every action, but I can understand the person. Whether they are stubborn or compliant. Whether they are meek or dangerous. And it doesn't take long to understand a person when you're trying to understand their general self instead of every detail.

To summarize; I think that if we are properly observant, we can find that the world has people we can relate to in various degrees, even to the point of love.

I think I do kind of believe there is someone, and probably actually more than one, out there for everyone. I'm not sure if I'd call it a soulmate necessarily, because I don't really believe in that concept in general. Now whether you're going to find that 'someone' in your lifetime is another thing entirely. I don't agree that you can just sit back and wait for them to waltz into your life because it's probably not going to happen, but if you leave yourself open to the opportunity, and the belief that it is possible, then you have far more chances of it happening.

At least that's what they say in 'The Secret' apparently. And the author of that book was on Oprah so it must be true. Right?

I agree with above, sometimes you have to put effort in.

Sectorstar, I agree with what you said. I don't believe in sort of thing either. Although there are ways of improving ones chances no matter the starting point, nothing is guaranteed. I know of some people (NTs included) who have been single most or even all of their lives.