I rejected someone last night: Do you think this is mean?

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Have you even asked the girl you liked out if you've not it's cheeky that you'll reject some one that blunty yet don't have the nerve to askyour own crush out.

Update: I didn't think it was mean at all myself. I kind of knew what this girl was looking for and I wasn't interested in that. The way she was acting I can tell that I bruised her ego a little bit. I don't consider that my problem really, I told her I wasn't interested and she handled it by dancing with other guys while also looking at me to see how I react. I don't have any assumptions as to whether she found the other guys attractive, but the fact she kept looking at me was proof enough that she wanted me to react to her.

As far as asking someone out, I invited the whole group out including the girl-friend as well as the person I am actually going on dates with (the date couldn't make it). To further add to the not being so cheeky:

I even had a problem with some guy dancing with the girl-friend later on. It wasn't so much the fact that he was dancing with her, it was the moment he decided to take things too far. I watched him high five his buddies as he was dancing. I let it slide until I watched him grab the girl's boobs voluntarily and without her consent. I stepped in and got him off her. He gave me the look afterwards that he didn't like me doing that, almost like "What did I do?" To further irritate him, the girl-friend voluntarily, albeit a little drunk herself, hugged me a few minutes later. His buddies did nothing and neither did he.

she mighta been worth springing for a reality FC2 inverse condom.

You handled it better than I would have! If some stranger grabbed my ass, male or female, they'd be getting slapped or a call to police!

She seemed pretty forward, I doubt it put a dent in her dating adventures. People like that aren't hurt as badly by rejection they just move on to the next. I think your reaction was pretty decent.

You both rejected each other, at least that's what I get from what you wrote.

You shouldn't feel bad. She violated your space.

If you had done that to her, pinching her ass, you'd have been asking for sexual harassment charges, or worse, an ass kicking. If we are all indeed equal, than it should go both ways, and she should've been more courteous and respectful of your boundaries. There is a right and a wrong way to approach somebody, and she did it the wrong way. You were in the right and hopefully she learned a good lesson about how to approach people. Namely, treating them like a human being and not a piece of meat.

Misunderstandings happen all the time and people go out to pubs/clubs to basically pick up. In this particular scene contact can become more appropriate, especially on the dance floor. By what you are saying it is obvious that she was trying to pick you up but everyone is different so it's hard to tell what people are comfortable with. Personally, I wouldn't like to be pinched on the ass either.

As far as being rude goes you could have elaborated a bit as to why you weren't interested but I don't think she was that offended because the way she asked you seemed like she just wanted to know, regardless of the answer.

Anyway nice job

NO! Actually it should have been meaner. She was a no-class, sloppy, inebriated douchebag.
Oh gee wizz...let's not hurt the feelings of the aggressive slapper in the pub. She had to work up a lot of nerve to come and talk to you?! She had a heck of a lot of nerve!! That b***h does that ALL the time. A person has to work up a lot of nerve to what?? Pinch your ass. That's disgusting. Would you believe that some absolute b***h tried to pick up my husband in an art museum right in front of my kids? My elder son was furious. My younger son kept on begging me to make this woman go away. Where are people's heads? Have they no boundaries?