Fitness and relationships.

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Completely off-topic, but you two look SO adorable Hyperlexian!

I've been attracted to a really wide variety of body types, weight ranges, shape, with all different sorts of fitness and eating habits.

It doesn't seem that fitness or size or body shape actually has anything to do with whether or not I'm compatible with someone. If I'm attracted to someone, I'm not going to ignore it because we're not similarly built or don't have similar workout routines. And I'm certainly not going to lay it out as a prerequisite for pursuing a relationship. For me, I guess there are a lot of things that are important to me and the fitness or weight of a romantic interest isn't likely ever going to be one. I guess that is because I don't think of my fitness level or diet or weight or body type as a very important aspect of my identity in close, personal relationships.

That said, if someone is going to an extreme with how they treat their body, it can easily be something that can prevent or destroy a romantic relationship. That's not always a visible thing, I can't judge how well someone takes care of his or herself by looking at their body. But even well-hidden stuff self-destruction will eventually impact those closest to the person self-destructing, so I can't deny that there is any connection... it's just not a thing I put on a mental checklist when I'm interested in someone.

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I think personal health is of utmost importance when it comes to my own personal relationships, how could you have a relationship if the budget for the diet was not one that was mutually shared? There's a reason why France has such a low obesity rate in comparison to the United States and that's due to organic foods.

There's nothing like seeing a girl with a good squat butt in the gym but that's just my personal preference, other people might have other preferences but I can't see myself with someone that chooses to live an unhealthy lifestyle.

Most of my dieting budget is spent on organic pasta, brown rice, lentils, fresh meats, vegetables and other health products.

I prefer an average girl with a compatable personality over a super hot looking girl that has no personaility any day of the week.

If hyperlexian and her boyfriend want to spend their money on cheese puffs and pizzas, that's up to them. That's their choice, If I want to spend hours in the gym lifting heavy weights and eating organic food, it's my choice.

People are entitled to have their standards but they shouldn't try to fit others into meeting those standards, people should have respect for the lifestyle choices others choose to make.

That is why I have come to the conclusion that it is better to find someone who already does meet your standard instead of trying to mould somebody into your preferred standard.

I'm out of shape. My problem is that I hate exorcising. In addition to Aspergers, I also got stuck with fibromyalgia and have a very low pain tolerance. Doing any kind of serious work out just kills me. I also like cooking and eating food that tastes good. It's one of the few pleasures I get. I don't gorge or anything like that, but I don't do any kind of diet.

^^^ My thoughts, exactly!

OUT, DEMONS! OUT!!

I also hate to be sweaty as well! Which is why I do just 30 minutes of workout with light walking for my fitness. Anymore than that and It'd be overwhelming. Anyhow I agree, about nice butts. You have to have some fat there already to make it look lifted and plump.