Why is it impossible for an ugly man to be desired?

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26 Mar 2013, 9:52 am

Yop, sure. Thats why you see all this old rich guys with beautiful young females. Because ugliness is not important for woman, and old rich guy have a so hot external appearance. There is nothing hotter in the world for a woman, then balls hanging down to the knees. XD

So Anna Nicole Smith was a really lucky woman, that such an external hot guy like her husband, choose her out of luck, because her appearance cant have been of any importance for him, because she is a woman and womans appearances are not of importance, as we have been teached right now. ^^



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26 Mar 2013, 9:57 am

A woman may want a better looking man if she's looking to have children with him. Who wants to make love to someone as ugly as Tim Curry example, when women would want a man as handsome as Tom Cruise?


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26 Mar 2013, 9:58 am

Some women prefer to be the ones that get the attention or more attention in the relationship so they might avoid going for someone attractive, there are so many determining factors to a relationship such as personality, ambitions, passion, chemistry and humour.

I think if you are going to sit around, feeling sorry for yourself, you aren't going to attract many women because you are projecting a negative vibe. Try projecting a positive vibe, be remembered as the guy who makes people laugh or the person who brings happiness and women may find you more attractive.



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26 Mar 2013, 10:01 am

Ratae wrote:
Men need to be the perfect Channing Tatum, 6'2, chiseled abs, cute face, good jaw, masculine, and if they don't have that, they will die alone and unloved.


This is patently ridiculous.......6'2 is too short now. You gotta be at least 6'4", adjusting for average height increase in the population. :lol:



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26 Mar 2013, 10:06 am

omegatyrant wrote:
Ratae wrote:
Men need to be the perfect Channing Tatum, 6'2, chiseled abs, cute face, good jaw, masculine, and if they don't have that, they will die alone and unloved.


This is patently ridiculous.......6'2 is too short now. You gotta be at least 6'4", adjusting for average height increase in the population. :lol:


Actually, you're pretty OK as long as you're over 5'7.



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26 Mar 2013, 10:11 am

omegatyrant wrote:
Ratae wrote:
Men need to be the perfect Channing Tatum, 6'2, chiseled abs, cute face, good jaw, masculine, and if they don't have that, they will die alone and unloved.


This is patently ridiculous.......6'2 is too short now. You gotta be at least 6'4", adjusting for average height increase in the population. :lol:


For me 6'4 would be way too tall. I'm only 5'4. If a man is 5'9 that's fine for me. Channing Tatum is gorgeous. Of course a man who has good looks, no beer belly, takes good care of himself by eating right and working out attracts me the best.


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26 Mar 2013, 10:17 am

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A girl who struggles with her weight can still find love, because there are TONS of men who love chubby girls. She can lose weight and have even more guys interested. But are there any women who love chubby guys? Nope.


I think you are confusing the term of wanting sex and wanting a relationship, most men want to sleep with these girls but as far as having a relationship with them, most guys either can't or don't want to settle down. I know for a fact that some girls can be very emotionally dynamic and high maintenance.

Trust me, there are plenty of people out there in unhappy marriage situations and there are also people forced into marriages or relationships by social and peer pressure. It takes a lot of maturity and responsibility to handle a relationship or marriage.

You sound like you desire women for sex instead of companionship and a truly passionate mutual interest. I would say find out what you are truly passionate about and learn to respect and love yourself before you give into your lust.



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26 Mar 2013, 10:21 am

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Danny Devito apparently was blessed with good social skills to make up for his ugliness. AS+ugly=screwed. Also, Asian men have the lowest rate of marriage in USA.

Anyway, some girls do like chubby guys. If you're bigger, they feel protected I think. However, being Asian you're probably small framed, so small frame+chubby isn't good. Like some white and black folks are more "naturally" bigger, but there's fewer Asian born mesomorphs and endomorphs.

But I remember my first time ice skating as an adult, this girl and this guy were skating. The guy was like 300lbs (but like six feet), and not good looking at all. Basically prototype of foreveralone 30 year old nerd. The girl looked like a super model or something, just absolutely amazing. She had a great time learning to skate with this guy and I heard her suggest coffee after. I mean I don't know the end totally, but the girl seemed super into him and he did well for himself. This is like 1 in a million type of stuff, though.

I dunno, get into lifting or bodybuilding and get muscles and suddenly girls will smile at you a lot more. Guaranteed.
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26 Mar 2013, 10:25 am

If you try to give something away for free, people won't be interested generally because they think that it lacks value but if you list something for even a small amount, they will attain value to that item and that value brings attraction.

That's why celebrities like Tom Cruise are highly desired, of course looks can play a factor but most of it attains to their value and status in terms of them being universally attractive. Would celebrities still be attractive if they had ordinary jobs? I think they would be successful enough because they have good looks and social skills.



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26 Mar 2013, 11:09 am

Ratae wrote:
So if you're an ugly woman, all you need to do is wait for a guy who is turned on by women who look like you. But men don't have that option. Men need to be the perfect Channing Tatum, 6'2, chiseled abs, cute face, good jaw, masculine, and if they don't have that, they will die alone and unloved. You never hear women lust over a short, emasculate, weedy, spectacled Asian male. There is only one type of guy women lust for: it is the men that are tall, handsome and masculine.


That's ridiculous. I am not attracted to abs, jaws, or any overly-masculine features--and I am a stereotypically attractive woman, not ugly at all (at least according to most). I like my men skinny, lanky even. And I don't care much about height, as long as they're at least 5'2"... I love men with glasses, and even men with more feminine features. My husband is all of those things, as are all the men I've dated.

My guess is that you either have unrealistic standards for women, as in any woman you date must look like a "super model," or you just seek out/are attracted to the wrong kind of woman--the shallow kind with no appreciation for diverse types of beauty (a large amount of men and women fall into this category, I'll admit). Or, perhaps women are not turned off by your appearance, but more so by your vast generalizations of who they are and what they're into...



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26 Mar 2013, 11:21 am

If we went by what people of both genders on this forum say in threads:
-All males are expected to look like models
-All females are expected to look like models
If you dont do so then thats your problem and you may consider killing yourself so that we can achieve our model looking population dream sooner.



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26 Mar 2013, 11:42 am

Ridiculous and certainly contradicted by facts, as plenty of ugly men are married/in relationships and mind you, not so many of them are rich.

1000Knives wrote:
Danny Devito apparently was blessed with good social skills to make up for his ugliness.


Exactly, and I imagine he worked on making himself more attractive to people in other ways. I used to have an acquaintance of similar height. He was convinced everybody was judging him strictly on that. Truth be told he wasn't just "unpleasant" to be around, but the rudest person I've ever met, also very mean spirited and shallow himself. Most people were inclined to cut him a lot of slack assuming his life was bad enough, but would eventually have enough of being constantly insulted and abused and gave up on him. Guess who did he blame for it?

Thinking your physical appearance is the sole or main reason for your social/romantic failures is nothing but a cope-out, a way of avoiding responsibility and putting the blame on others.



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26 Mar 2013, 11:46 am

There seem to be a lot of people of both genders who are more comfortable explaining their lack of dating success with the claim that the entirety of the opposite sex has unreasonable standards.



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26 Mar 2013, 11:48 am

spongy wrote:
If we went by what people of both genders on this forum say in threads:
-All males are expected to look like models
-All females are expected to look like models
If you dont do so then thats your problem and you may consider killing yourself so that we can achieve our model looking population dream sooner.


Nice summary :lol:



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26 Mar 2013, 12:16 pm

If a person doesn't have what is stereotypically superficially attractive features, they usually win people over with things like high intelligence and positive personality traits. Looks aren't really that important to me but I have to be honest, a guy who's teeth look like he came from a country where toothbrushes and toothpaste were forbidden by law, or long nostril hairs with boogers clinging to them is going to have a hard making me look directly at him. :lol: Seriously though, this who gender comparison debate thing is going to go on forever and I'm pretty much sick of it. I wish I were thin and more attractive but not because I don't never get asked out or anything. In fact I don't want a romantic relationship and may not be physically able to enjoy one. I just want to be able to look in the mirror and not want to cry. :(



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26 Mar 2013, 12:18 pm

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Men need to be the perfect Channing Tatum, 6'2, chiseled abs, cute face, good jaw, masculine, and if they don't have that, they will die alone and unloved.


This is nonsense; there are plenty of men who are not like that who are happily married.


UTTER NONSENSE!