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When people get positive attention however they act, they are highly likely to turn into spoiled brats

I often get negative attitudes off people when I'm doing NOTHING WRONG, just being civil and polite to people, so you can probably understand that this type of woman/person annoys me no end

They get all the men after them regardless of how nasty they are

Still, there's a fair collection of men out there who've 'had it' with the good looking nasty types and are relieved to find someone as nice as myself

Then when we all get older these women won't even have their looks going for them and they'll have all the younger women pushing them off centre stage, so then they'll learn a hard lesson!

Never encountered these nasty women on OKC. Either they ignore me, are nice, chatty, and interested, or simply disappear after a few messages.

Yeah, I had a nice conversation going over ~ a week, her last message was actually a virtual smooch and a phone # request (which I gave) and then *BLOOP* gone.

I mean... that's kinda cold.

Oh well. You pick yourself up and dust off and trudge on.

I never encountered them only because I was at least smart enough to detect most of them ahead of time and boy where there a lot of nasty, stuck up women online. One profile in particular started by saying "I don't need another a$#hole I already have one and that's enough!! !" With the few ladies I talked with I generally found we had a decent, mundane conversation and I say one thing that MIGHT be open to interpretation like for example I like to have fun on Friday nights (referring to always going to a hockey game of some kind) and *puff* they are gone. One girl I was texting and emailing for about two weeks had a great conversation and was ready to meet in person. Suddenly, when I mentioned my cousin turned into a total b^^ch (when she asked why we weren't close) she instantly stopped messaging. I'm starting to think many online females live in a fantasy world and hate having that illusion shattered by real life issues. Yes ladies, life is not a reality TV show!

I maintain that online dating is like writing an exam where 95% is the pass mark. Sure it can be done but realistically you are just wasting your time unless you are the top dog. I had two examples where I communicated with girls I knew IRL that I would be interested in getting to know them if they wanted and both proceeded to block me and pull down all their pictures like I was some sort of predator. Everyone says I can come on too strong but how else I am supposed to express interest? It's not like I said I wanted to just have sex as I need an emotional connection first.

Hmmm...I haven't had this kind of trouble. I guess it's just as well because I move a lot and have to hang out around douchey law students all the time, so otherwise, I wouldn't do much dating, besides the occasional non-douchey law student I meet. I can't read flirting out of context (the context of a date).

I have a theory I'd like to add and I call it the Pool Theory.

Pool Theory:

Person joins dating sites and takes 2-4 weeks to become comfortable with the whole process. Takes another 2-4 weeks to go on a couple dates, and by the end of the 3rd month, takes down their profile because they either found a significant other or have quit.

So, you have three months to find a date, or you are hosed. Your "pool" has expired, and if you have a 4 month old join date and contact someone in their first week, you are clearly damaged goods.

With that, you should quit online dating after the end of the third month for a period of three months. This limits you to an active search of 6 months per year.

Did that make sense to everyone? If not, I can try to clarify further.

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Last edited by Tyri0n on 18 Apr 2013, 10:41 am, edited 1 time in total.

Except I don't think it's possible to know someone's join date. I made an OKC account in 2008 in order to take tests.

When did I first use it for its actual purpose? 2012.

^^^ Wow... good point...

So when you see someone's been a member of ???date.com for 2 years, one automatically thinks negatively of them! I can see that happening... even my Aspie brain assumes, "They've been around over a year and still hasn't found anyone?? Must be pretty icky!"

My account is over a year old... barely touched. (Super-low priority, but anyone checking won't know that...)

Except how do you know someone's join date? I think they deliberately hide this info.

Match.com shows the join date and most show a join date if you look for it.

But also, you surely notice the same faces over and over. You know they've been around for 3+ months. The "pool" gets smaller and smaller over time, so it is best to "rejoin a new pool" after a 3 month hiatus.

When you rejoin, create a whole new account with a whole new email address so you are "fresh" even if you use some of the same pictures.

It wouldn't occur to me to judge a person badly just because they'd joined ages ago; it would be irrelevant to me

A lot of the time people forget to take their profile down when they meet someone or just see people on a casual basis

The kind of person who sees others as having some kind of 'sell-by date' is not someone you'd want to know anyway

I find it highly amusing that the people who have all these stringent stipulations and long lists of requirements are often the very people with little to no success in this field

Take it from me - any reasonably intelligent person who knows a bit about relationships knows to avoid these types like the plague - so stipulate away - you'll hopefully end up with a person as obnoxious as yourself, if anyone at all!

OKcupid(and probably other dating sites) lets you temporarily deactivate your account for as long as you want, and it appears to everyone else that the profile has been completely deleted.

This way you can disappear for awhile without going through the trouble of making a whole new account, and in the meantime wait for some new people to appear on the dating site. OKC doesn't let you deactivate/reactivate it more than once a week though.

The good thing about being a long-timer on dating sites is you run across people you've met before when you join the
latest popular free site

It's a reminder you aren't on your own in the last chance saloon lol

(Not that I'm in it atm)

So I like long-timers

Yeah, imagine a bar or room with 20 amazing successful men and 5 horrible-quality women (ie. ignorant, filthy, losers...etc), those women would still likely develop the same picky and god's gift attitude...

I think most bad things about online dating come from the imbalanced gender ratio (excluding fake female profiles and females just playing quizzes and seeking friends).