Just how do I tell her?

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Thanks, y'all.

Right now, I am feeling aflutter about all this....... *faint*

Do not throw out the L word, especially if you have not met. Wait until you've been dating a few months or until she says it first. It's too much too soon with no physical connection to back it up. Honestly, I don't know if I would suggest exclusively dating if you haven't met in person. Wait until you meet, know for sure there is a real romantic connection, spend a little time with her, then bust out the charm and try to make it official. But don't tell her you love her. Up until you meet, I agree with the other commenters--be complimentary, but not in a worshippy way (example: "man, I really like how smart and well-read you are; you're a great conversationalist" is preferable to "Oh my god, baby, you are just the most amazing person ever. Your hair shines like the moon and I want to swim in it. I just LOVE EVERYTHING about you and I'm so so so so into you and I can't wait for us to meet and fall in love because you are SO BEAUTIFUL AND AWESOME!") Chill, relax, and enjoy the ride. Restrain yourself and think before you type.

Also, if she's on OkCupid, she will most likely appreciate thoughtful compliments, opinions, and just interest in general on what she has to say more than the standard, "Ur hawt. Let's bone."or "So when are we meeting up, cutie pie?" that are pretty standard (I was on there for about 2 or 3 years. I know.), so you should stand out in the crowd of sleaze.

I hate those "Keep Calm and Carry on" tshirts, but I think that should be your motto in this situation.

^ Thanks, but I will likely be in L.A. no more than a weekish.

I would say the longer you wait to say it the longer this will last. It is so stupid to not have to say it, but that is what worked for me. I speculate that it doesn't force them to express what they feel.

So, I guess I'd have to wait until July then, right?

by telling her so soon, you are giving up the game by giving it to her on a silver platter. The game just ended, there will be no more mystery. You're the one chasing her, I would say don't tell her, unless she asks you.

just turn the roles around and see if someone you barely knew came to you and confessed that they loved you, wouldn't that kill the mystery for you? You will be left feeling pressured to answer it see the problem?

Use it for as a last resort. She does know that your intention is to date her right?

Um.... yeah. I just feel so confused and aflutter!

Don't pressure her too much. If she has any sense that will scare her off.

Just try to 'let things happen naturally.' Don't go in with an agenda to 'tell her' a specific thing.

If the two of you are really hitting it off as well as you say then she already knows.

If you want to make it clear you are into her, say things like "I really like you..." and "I really like talking to you/being with you." But don't overdo that. Once in a while by phone and maybe once toward the end of the week long visit.

By the way does she know you are going to come to L.A. for a week, and is that week with her, or are you just going to call when you get there, or...?

It's for Anime Expo down there. She'll be at it, and yes, she is aware.

I'd just focus on fun and let it bring you two closer and make some great memories.

Okay.